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Let’s do Lunch: Is it inappropriate to go out to lunch with someone other than your partner or spouse?

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I am the kind of girl who can’t turn down a free lunch. Food just tastes better when it is free.  So I am the kind of person who goes out to lunch with people for the heck of it. I don’t care how you look. If you are short, tall, or if you stink! I don’t care because the meal is free.

I always told the hubster to avoid any misconceptions. So he knew the entire time. Well guess what? Finally, after two whole years later from my last business lunch with someone of the opposite gender he told me that he did not like it. Wowza!  I thought nothing of it because I let it be known that I am married and that this was just business. The last business lunch I went on had to do with local politics. Long story. Any way the hubby didn’t see it that way. I think he sees every man as a walking set of uncontrollable hormones waiting to pounce if I give them a window of opportunity. Like he did! He also told me that people always want something. Call me naive then. I did not know. I thought the pleasure of being in my company would be enough. Just kidding! I asked several ladies I know about this topic and they happen to agree with him.

Now, before you ask,  if the shoe was on the other foot I really would not mind him doing it because I am not insecure. But that is just me. What do you think? Is it inappropriate to go out to lunch with someone other than your partner or spouse even if it is just  business related?

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  1. unglib 14 November, 2012 at 01:41 Reply

    All it takes is a third person to keep things kosher. I know this isn’t possible in every situation, but making a lunch date into a threesome takes the “couple-y” vibe out of it.

    It can be frustrating to undergo scrutiny about something (especially from your SO) about something you don’t see as a big deal, but he might not be insecure- he could see it just as the way things are; he doesn’t think it’s “appropriate” for a taken person to go out one-on-one with someone of the opposite sex.

    I get where you’re coming from (I love a free lunch too, girl), but then, I’m not your husband! I think it’s strange of him to bring it up so far down the road, but these things happen. Now you know how he feels!

    I love your blog; nice work!

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