“When someone shows you who they are, believe them”
Maya Angelou
I am about to get real and raw. WAKE UP SIS!! Black Women these Black Men hate you. They hate the very essence of you. They hate you, their sisters, their mothers, and their mother’s mother. Heck they hate the skin they live in and they are telling you.
Kevin Hart
#handsdown Light-skinned women usually have better credit than a dark-skinned woman…Broke as dark hoes…LolDark skinned women take a punch @ da face better than light-skinned women…u soft as yellow b–ches…lol
Lil Wayne
Beautiful black woman, I bet that b*tch look better red.” “…my daughter is the first and last dark skin child I’m having. The rest of my baby moms [are] light skinned chicks. I even got an Asian baby moms to make sure I have a daughter with good hair. Too bad we had a son.Young Berg
I’m kinda racist…I don’t like dark butts…You know how some women prefer light skin men or dark skin men.It’s rare that I do dark butts – that’s what I call dark skinned women…I [don’t date women] darker than me.I love the pool test. If you can jump in the pool exactly like you are and you don’t come out looking better than you looked before going in the pool – then that’s not a good look. Any woman that uses brown gel to set down her baby hair is not poppin.
Pilow the Don
…black women need to get their shit together, period, point black. And if you’re in denial of that, you are part of the problem.Kanye West
Rolling with some light-skin chicks and some Kelly Rowlands.If it wasn’t for race mixing there’d be no video girls. Me and most of our friends like mutts a lot. Yeah, in the hood they call ’em mutts
Neyo
All the prettiest kids are light skinned anyway.Tyrese (on not having Black women in his video)
I welcomed all women and went with the best…. I don’t do favors.Brian White
You can’t call it a stereotype if it’s the majority. The most prevalent image in “urban society” right now is women like Nene [Leaks]. If there’s a fight that breaks out on “Love & Hip Hop” those people are one every blog, the cover of every magazine the next week. It’s not Taraji or Gabrielle, it’s whoever just got into a fist fight. Tyler’s not stereotyping, he’s holding up a mirror and people are mad at him because people don’t want to look at that image in that way.[sic]” read more of the madness here
SOURCES:
Neyo on video saying the quotehttp://www.youtube.com/
Lil Wayne: http://newsone.com/951115/
Kevin Hart explaining why he said it:http://www.youtube.com/
Young Berg - http://
Kanye West: http://voices.yahoo.com/
WAKE UP!!
YES WAKE UP!!
These people hate you but they will gladly take your money. Heck some of them even said so. A chicken wouldn’t support KFC so why in the world would you support a man that hates you. I don’t get it. Is it Stockholm or battered woman’s syndrome. Someone and I mean somebody explain this madness to me. How many times do these Black Women abusers/haters have to trash you before you get it? They aren’t coming home, they are not changing, and no they don’t love you. Love is not pain. Love is kind. Love is sweet and gentle. Sister you are being verbally abused and assaulted and the thing is that you know it. You have become complicit in your own abuse. And guess what? The world sees it and shakes their collective heads because you continue to line your abusers pockets.
I implore you. No I beg you to walk away. Turn off the television. Don’t buy that CD. Go to another movie. Build your wealth, health, and self esteem. Heck even pray on it if works for you. Just let these people know you will not stand for it. I don’t care if they apologized. HELLO it’s complete and utter bullocks! They apologized because YOU line their pockets! Think of it like this. If a random white actor or singer said the same thing about Black women wouldn’t you be signing petitions and marching to get his ass fired. So why are these racist Black men any different?
I will close with more infinite wisdom from that great thespian Slim Thug.
Slim Thug
It’s hard to trust a Black woman sometimes because a lot of Black women’s mind frame is that the man gotta do everything for her - he gotta pay for this, he gotta pay for that, and if it ain’t about money then a lot of them ain’t fucking with him. If that’s what you’re here for then I don’t want to be with you,” said Slim.Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.
I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it saying, ‘Y’all gotta go through all that shit [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other shit.’
My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the s**t that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too. She graduated from Columbia [University] and I like that about her so it’s cool. I’ve dated girls that will buy a $3,000 bag and don’t know how to pay it off on their credit cards. They walk around in these Louis Vuittons and red bottoms but they’re riding around in raggedy cars, so it’s just getting your priorities right.
White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit. Black women need to stand by their man more. Don’t always put the pressure of if I’m fucking with you, you gotta buy me this and that. Black men are the ones that motherfuckers need [but] I think a lot of them need to step it up too. A Black man who gets a little bread will go make it rain in the club and be broke the next day or instead of im going to invest in a business he gonna go buy new jewelry or a new car and still live in the hood. Black peoples’ mentality is real fucked up in general [and] it’s affecting everything.
“Black women need to be more genuine and be more 50/50 [but] It should be a fair exchange in a relationship period or eventually somebody is gonna feel like they’re getting fucked over whether it’s the woman or the man. I think that will help Black relationships out a lot.
Check out part two here.
Bougie you better preach girl because everything that you said is the painful truth. Im actually going to blog and address the painful truth about why black women are justified in their anger. We need to stop financially supporting those who degrade is a a group. These sell out coins are famous because black womb supported them. My hard earned money will not line the pockets of these haters. Good job on the post and I love your blog!!!
Yes, yes yes!! We need to demand respect!
I absolutely salute you!
Thanks for this eye opening article. It’s very depressing to see such self-hatred among these brothers. But the truth must be exposed. The negrophobia must STOP in our community. Keep up the great work sis.
God will hear. We have to trust in Jesus and be faithful he did not cause this break down as I am sure he is not happy. It is so sad how black women (girls) are being disrepected by the very men who come from their womb. If it were not for their mothers most of these men would not be here today because many fathers are and were away. I do not support and never supported foolishness. Thanks for your blog young lady. Btw I love your greenish dress and your hair 🙂
Thank you
I am not African American but I follow and appreciate your blog. Please keep it up..
Maybe one day check mine out, I saw this piece and I guess it was meant for female african american
http://efemenaoreoluwa.blogspot.com/2010/08/looking-for-love-why-not-broaden-your.html
These men have a right as grown A$$ men to decide whom they perfer to date; this is the reason MANY black women are not married, because ya’ll seem to try o tell black men how to think, want to change his decion, and give the impression you can tell US what we are supposed to want and like. The slave masters raped out black women for a long long time and black men sat back and watched, psychologically how can you blame black men for being inconsciously turned on by white women? Men forget that thier deep seated hate for the white man inturns make them want their women lighter skin. Note: I have friends who are immigrants of Morroco and Algeria and all they want is dumb pale white women for the benefit og their green card- they say black and latino women are not passive and they are in more ways then other deemed “hardened”.So lets put things in perspective- even if you were the right color you still have to work on that image of being “Hardened “by not being so judgemental and stop thinkn you know every freakin thing
Booooooooooooo!
No one is saying they do not have the right to prefer who they want to date. But what is being said is that black women need to stop supporting these type of black men by buying their cd’s, etc and spend our money elsewhere. Some us have become conditioned to think because there is a black face on the box we are obligated to buy. The author is just telling black women to stop supporting these men who obviously don’t need our support.
Black men can date whomever they want. But they don’t have to throw Black women under the bus in the process. These men have black women in their families. No other race of men does this. You do not have to put your own down to justify your love for non-black and light-skinned black women. I would say the same thing to Black women who shit on black men, while praising white men. Love who you love and leave us the hell out of it.
Black women are second only to white men in both earning and education… it is our loyalty to worthless black males that have us hear even talking about you. Society looks at you as the thing that you present - it is only, and sadly, only black women who even support you…. please.
Dang… second to white men in education and earnings and ‘the only ones’ who still support black men wholeheartedly. Truth.
Black men are not worthless. Ppl who put down others on social media definitely have esteem issues of their own. Many women of many different ethnicities love and support them some black men. The self hatred of ppl of color is deeply rooted and mostly systemic. One comment or paragraph will not be enough to fully explain the reasons behind it. It’s mostly sad tho
Black men can screw and marry WHOMEVER THEY WANT. THAT was not the point of this article. The point was and is, that black women are STUPID, if we continue to support those who dont support us. THAT was the point. All that mess spewed by Noon Yi was nothing but some strawman tactics to divert from the message of this post.
BLACK WOMEN, WAKE UP!!
Do not let these fools try to guilt, shame or confuse you into believing that this is your fault, or that you owe them your allegience. YOU DO NOT. They love they white/non-black women so much, let them chics SPEND MONEY SUPPORTING their carreers as actors, entertainers, atheletes and such. How much respect do we think we will garner, supportiing those who OPENLY deny, degrade and dismiss us?
WAKE UP and keep your money and your support, in to YOURSELF!!
You are so ignorant. Your grammar is on the level of a fourth grader. Spell check.
Date whoever you please. I often wonder about black men who speak so poorly of bw…WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR MOTHER, GRANDMOTHER, SISTERS, AUNTS, FEMALE COUSINS? I would not be surprised if you hated them also.
How many times did your Mother had to bail you out of some jam?
You could never pay your Mother back.
Is this the reason why most other races of MEN look down on you?
On the other hand, when you see a hot, young and intelligent black woman with her other race man keep walking and do not say one flipping word in their direction.
Personally, I date interracially and I have been doing this for years. When I flirt, I only flirt with non-bm. You see what is good you is good for me. And, the thing is most of these other race men are treat me well. They do not cry like most bm about going out and buying a woman a nice present…because they know this is what men do. Men support their women. Too many bm want the woman to support them in every facet.
Good luck to any other culture of women who can deal with you men.
I am very happy to say, “I do not date bm.” I am happier without you in my personal life.
Times are changing for bw as well. It is past time bw remove their ball and chain (black men) from their ankles. Awwww, that felt so good. FREEDOM!
@noon yi That one make no sense. You are stating two opposing ideas. Black men say by..yeah i think that is right. In case you missed it, these dark hoodrats denigraded dark skin. MIssed that right?
WHEN YOU BECOME A BLACK BEAUTIFUL DARK OR FAIRSKINED WOMEN THEN TALK ,BUT YOUR NOT SO SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!
Exactly, white or black who are you to tell someone who to love or to date. Last I checked this was as free country and we are allowed to pick and choose who we want to love or be with. Get over yourself you are not God. If we all stopped judging and mind our own business, the world may be a better place. Grow up there are other pressing matters in the world than who an entertainer wants to date or sleep with. It doesn’t matter for a normal person like us. They are normal people also just put into the light for our entertainment. BUT THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE LIKE YOU AND ME. Find something else to be upset and talk about.
Man shut your sorry ass up. What would your mother think of you.
You need to get the hell off this blog cause this isn’t about preference at all its about self hatred. Seems like your the only one that’s being judgemental here. If a man chooses to date what he wants to date it should be about love in his heart not using an excuse on downing an discriminating on his own damn skin color. An black people have no control over the white man raping the black woman that was beyond our control an still doesn’t have an excuse for a self hating pig to dislike his own people.
Makes no sense
I salute you. Absolutely.
Amen amen amen! Tell the truth and shame he devil. I’m actually going to address this same issue on my blog because this insanity needs to stop. Black women are justified in our anger because we are the only group of women that have to deal with their own males disrespecting us in public. These sell out coons wouldn’t be famous if it wasn’t for black women. Personally I will not use my hard earned dollars to line the pockets of people who hate me. Good job on the post and I love the blog. Keep up the good work!
Thanks for posting this. Slim Thug HAS REAL ISSUES AS DO THE OTHERS. But I read Brian White’s comments in context. And he had an entire paragraph before stating that it’s wrong that Gabrielle Tarji and other sisters are not the ones portrayed on blogs just the negative chicks like ne ne. Here’s the link to the article http://hellobeautiful.com/2504449/does-brian-white-hate-black-women-or-is-he-spot-on-exclusive/ If you’d like some content that’s not gossip driven like the blogs supporting this garbage (not this one) Check out mine at http://www.alldatsassybizzness.com Thanks
Yeah of all the comments, I found Brian’s the least offensive. I didn’t get much slander from his point.
I think he was trying to call it out in his way. Just got lost in translation.
Thanks so much for putting out the full context of the interview. I was not at all upset by Brian White’s statement. I think he was challenging black women. If we do not like an image - then don’t support it. We should not complain about the world thinking that we are loud and ignorant if we are watching Basketball Wives all the time and financially supporting the trashiest of media.
I disagree. “We” don’t all watch this. I have never watched an episode a day in my life. I wouldn’t recognize these people if you slapped me with an ironing board. He generalized over 17 million people based on Nene Leeks. He claimed her image represented me. Um no. We Black women are not monolithic. It may represent the people he knows but not anyone that I know.
Right!…
Brian White deserves to be on this list.
http://theybf.com/2010/08/31/wedding-fab-actor-brian-white-ties-the-knot-pops-off-on-people-talking-about-his-non-blac
I will not be supporting him!
Brian White deserves to be on this list.
http://theybf.com/2010/08/31/wedding-fab-actor-brian-white-ties-the-knot-pops-off-on-people-talking-about-his-non-blac
I no longer support him or any of these other guys on this list.
Thank you. I should have posted that but I thought what he said there was enough.
I’m sorry but I’m still not agreement that Brian White should be on this list. His comments made on the MadameNoire site are not in context. I see Bougie that you’re saying he’s making generalizations about us “all” watching rachet reality tv but what I understood is that “obviously” these shows are being supported by the masses otherwise they would no longer be on television. If we want better images of us on television we need to demand it. So just like we choose not to financially support “Think Like a Man” (movie or book), “Red Tails”, etc we also need to stop tuning into “Basketball (non) Wives”, “Housewives” and all the other rachet reality shows that reflect bad women in a bad light. These behavior of the women on those shows play into exactly what Slim Thug said.
And the other article listed about Brian White marrying a non-black woman….is this to support that he should be on the list because he found love with a non-black woman or the fact that he defending his right to do so? I’m not on twitter so I don’t know who is saying what when it says “SharonMonroe @actorbrianwhite” so excuse my ignorance. But is he the person actually making the statements or his people attempting to come to his defense because he is receiving flack for marrying a woman who isn’t black?
If anyone had anything disparaging to say about his choice of a marriage mate they were out of line as it is HIS CHOICE. I certainly hope that’s not the reason he is being added to this list.
I don’t care who is married to but I don’t, have not nor will ever, ever watch those housewives or basketball shows. He generalized every single Black woman.
Who he is*
Correction: “reflect black women in a bad light”.
What I believe Brian White was saying is if we want the media/television/movies to reflect a better or more positive image (the true image of most black women) we need to demand that by not supporting Nene Leaks and the like.
Basically he was saying that black women are jeolouse* because he married a white women. And then allowed his friend to make gross generalizations about black women on his twitter page. What he did was just as bad as any other guys on this list.
I read between the lines of Brian Whites’ comment and to me he meant that Taraji and those women he mentioned are loud and ghetto, That why they are not so talked about like those bousei ass bitches.
I meant NOT being loud and ghetto
I didn’t know 17 million Black women were jealous of his wife. Who knew? I guess his fellow costars are different because he knows them. Hello that is akin to a bigot saying “all Blacks are…. (so and so).” But the Black people I know are different. Smh.
Queen I have to admit I was wrong in this instance. I went back and read the full interviews instead of the bits and I agree with you. I see part of what he was saying but actions also speak louder than words.
Yes, I 100% understand that we don’t ALL watch basketball wives, Nene Leeks, and other trash. I personally have never watched any of those shows either. When someone uses the collective “we” it does not necessarily mean every single member of the group. The fact remains, if the vast majority of us do not like those images then the vast majority of us should not support those images. I have not looked at the demographics of the Nielsen ratings for these shows. But it is quite possible that significant numbers of African-American women support them. That seems to dishearten Brian White.
Oh man, I wonder how sad their childhood must have been. They clearly hate their parents and family. They hate themselves. Do they regret their upbringing? Hm. I know it’s hard being a person of colour but take that out on yourself. I’m glad my attraction to people is not based on looks or status because this is pathetic.
And the oppression continues . . .
Reblogged this on All-Dat-SassyBizzness and commented:
If we want to talk about racism, let’s point out some examples from within. This self-hate is going to continue until the made-up concept of race is abolished in this country. sign petition to end racial classification at
https://www.change.org/petitions/end-racial-classifications-profiling-in-the-us
Our worst enemies are ourselves,why when I was in school me and a white man had to fight for the honor and respect of black women from two black men who said that black women are too dark,too commanding and have their noses in the air.I had to call them n!ggertrash and a white guy who out of no where attacked there stupidity.I have heard too many black men disrespect black women like it is a normal pastime and more and more sometimes its me who’s outnumbered.I don’t hang with black men who disrespect black women or any women.Like Kola Boof said if the KKK was there to hang them she would help because that’s how destructive they are to the black community.
Brenande, You are absolutely correct. Thank you for being one of our men who honor, love, and protect us. I’m sure it started at home with the way you were raised. I would bet you never saw your father disrespect women of color either.
ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING BLOG POST…. Anyone & I mean ANYONE who can find 1 inkling of *Un-TRUTH* in what has been Blogged here is straight up BRAIN DEAD…. You cannot listen to ANY of these modern day coons & LOVE YOURSELF, Mother, Aunt, Sister, Neice, Daughter, etc.. These COONS Negros are signed & COONtracted to Perpetuate black self hate, and in particular BLACK FEMALE HATE.. These Coons Hate Black Women, and the cold part is this is only the tip of the iceberg. The overwhelming majority of ALL black celebrities, athletes, actors, politicians, professionals, singers, rappers, dancers etc.. PREFER women who look NOTHING like the wombs that bore them……WAKE YOUR ASSES UP & quit supporting folx that HATE YOU! Excellent Post Queen , Im looking forward to what comes next from your pen.. The RIGHTEOUS WRITE IN BLOOD!~Bilal Sankofa @Blakoben
It really is time for all of us as black women to wake the hell up! How can you respect or love men who don’t show any love, support or respect for women who look like their own mothers, sisters, and daughters. These men are really sick individuals. I feel sorry for their children. I also don’t understand the women who actually get in the bed with these men. I could never be with a man who talked shit about his own people.
Non-black women get in bed with them because BM confirm, reinforce, and support the notions of superiority they ALREADY believed they had over BW.
They actually aid and abeit white female supremacy, that’s why they’re in bed with them…
Ladies, there is no need for petitions, rallies, marches, etc. The solution is simple, obvious
and effective. Close your pocketbooks, wallets, debit cards & whatever other financial support
to these entities, because they certainly aren’t human. My money does NOT finance individuals who CLEARLY & REPEATEDLY INSULT ME. End of discussion. The quote at the top says it all. And if that isn’t clear enough remember what Zora Neal Hurston said ” All skinfolk ain’t kinfolk “
After seeing the additional link on white, it places a question mark all over his statement! Siserlical I agree our money can not support these idiots. But we also have to educate the younger people coming up so that the self hate is not perpetuated to the next generation.
That’s going to take alot of work specially cause we got younger generation growing up listening to lil wayne
Thank you thank you thank you thank you for this. I just would like to interject a little empathy into this conversation. These men here really hate themselves. No, they need to be held accountable for their words and actions. But we really also have to recognize the self-loathing that it represents. These men are not comfortable with their own reflections and so they find the need to take out their frustrations with the female versions of themselves - their mothers, their sisters, their daughters, etc. They need serious therapy because this is insanity.
They may hate themselves, but that doesn’t give them the right to publically, consistenly, and shamelessly denigrate Black females, our individuality, femininity, and our humanity. They’re not goign to recognize they’re self hate though because that would mean having to identify personal shortcomings and faults in this context, and from my experience with these kind of Black men, that ain’t gonna happen.
If they’re thinking dumb stuff like this, I say “GOOD RIDDANCE and thanks for letting us know how you really feel.”
I agree 100% with your post. I often comment that I don’t hear any other genre of music that so disrespects Black women.(Hip-Hop) I once heard a White woman comment that they had our men because Black women are violent and lazy! That ish drives me crazy. Black men say they have it worst than any other minority group yet they (like the ones above) expect LOYALTY from Black women after bashing/disrespecting us.
Boys yes I said Boys, like young Berg and Slim Thug are just plain old dumb no wonder they are complete nobodys in the music business. Kevin Hart I’m not surprised he has issues and so does Lil Wayne. I don’t support anything Lil Wayne at all or anything Kevin Hart. As for Brian White, I wouldn’t say he’s a nobody but his movies are average along with his acting. Tyrese’s comment wasn’t too bad but then again I don’t think it was the whole thing.
I get it, but I don’t. Saying they “hate” this and that because of these comments almost as ignorant as the comments themselves. Women have every right to be upset and feel disrespected by the comments, but to say they hate you based off the comments you put up just isn’t logical. One, some of these comments are taken out of context. Two, a couple of these comments were jokes. Now if I come to a conclusion off of what someone says, but I have no idea why they said or who they are saying it to and for what reason that means I’m ignorant to fhe facts. If a comedian or just anybody makes a joke about black women that doesn’t make you racist. To finish, I will have to say that BBG you have a great point because there are a lot (only a couple on your list if that) of black entertainers that do hate on black women, I just wish the argument was presented better so that I didn’t have the questions I have or think that I need to go find why some of these statements were made because I feel like a lot was left out.
To just sum it up…. great article and idea. I just wish it had more because I do believe you are right. Just wanted to see more factual stuff so I can show other people and they not look at me like its nonsense because I’m embellishing on things.
P.S. I LOVE BLACK WOMEN! Love is seems like an understatement lol. Black women are the best thing God created and that will never change. So if a black woman reads my comment, whether you disagree or agree. I LOVE YOU! and yes its because you are black and a woman!
No other group of men make jokes that support colorism except for Black people. Colorism is evil and divides us. Those Black people who support it even in jest disrespect my ancestors. When you disrespect my Blackness you are not an ally. You are worse than any bigot or hate group. You are a traitorous to yourself and your race.
If you love Black women you will protect Black women and children. You will either stand with us or you are against us. There is no compromise regarding me protecting my identity.
They hate black women. You are in denial. If black woman made those statement about dark men, it would definitely be called out.
These men are lost, confused and disgusting. I’m a black African, and its things like these that make me Thank God that I’m not African American. How can a man abuse and be repulsed by the image of his mother? Superficial bastards think that skin tone has all to do with what’s inside one’s head. Oprah, Toni Morrison, Michelle Obama, Angela Walker are not light skinned, yet they’ve paved the way for countless black women and even men. Imagine lil wayne having a half-asian son just so he can have ‘good’ hair. I guess he must feel like dying when he touches his dreads. I’m sure their mixed kids must hate the black part of themselves, because their fathers are racist niggerstocks!
This is also a problem in Africa, and this coming from an Ethiopia. Stop acting like African are special type of black people who are not affected by white supremacy. I know many Africans who think the same way. If you don’t believe me, go to Nigeria and see how many bleach skin treatment there is and how many of them sell out in a week. You need to stop all this Anti-blackness.
Any Black Man who has a problem with “dark skinned” Black Women has a problem with me. I am beautifully, fearfully and wonderfully made. I am not ashamed of who I am and have become. I will not dummy myself down to accommodate anyone who has little to no standards for himself. I have fully embraced my womanhood, and no Black Man is going to play me, diss me, call me out of my name, he’s not doing or saying anything to make me look or feel less than a human being. Hell will surely freeze over first.
Bravo Dr. LCJ!!!! I firmly agree!!! I am beautiful no matter what they say. Words can’t bring me down.
Yes!! Boycott them ALL!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5n13L8W315U
I am sick and tired of reading the blogs and/or stories of how dark skinned women are ugly, lazy, violent, hoodrats etc. etc. as the reason our black men choose to date/marry/shack-up with only light-skinned or strictly white women or any other race but their own.
Now I am not opposed to anyone dating whom ever their heart leads them too because we don’t choose whom we love our heart does. What I am saying is why place blame on your own kind and label us as non-worthy when the real issue is YOU are not comfortable in your own skin? Why should I carry your burden of self loathing?
There is so much hate directed towards our race and yet we hate each other more than any other race.
Every black woman is not lazy, on welfare, violent, baby momma etc. etc. Just as every black man is not a thug, deadbeat dad, in jail, out of work bum, woman beater, etc. etc. But, some celebrities and non-celebrities of color continuously label us as such.
We seem to be the only race that bashes our own while our enemies aka other races sit back and laugh at our ignorance.
Black men , you should know when you talk about your hate for dark skinned women/black and label us all as ugly inside and out you are shaming the woman who gave birth to you. Be it not for her you would not be here to complain about anything.
I refuse to be pigeon holed by ignorance. I love and embrace my beautiful black skin but my skin is only just a taste of who I truly am and if you feel my skin is a deterrent of getting to know the real me then it is your loss and my gain.
Girl you go on with your bad self LOL!! Love your comment because I have often and will continue to say that weak black men sit up and because they can’t understand the reasoning behind that person standing in the mirror looking back at them with the decisions they make they blame us for their short comings.. The one thing people should take note of with the ones making comments is the life style in which they choose to live.. Rich thugs, duggies, bisexual, woman beaters and the list goes on..
Yes. And women need to open their option. Travel and seek like-minded people to be around;health people.
I am sick and tired of reading the blogs and/or stories of how dark skinned women are ugly, lazy, violent, hoodrats etc. etc. as the reason our black men choose to date/marry/shack-up with only light-skinned or strictly white women or any other race but their own.
Now I am not opposed to anyone dating whom ever their heart leads them too because we don’t choose whom we love our heart does. What I am saying is why place blame on your own kind and label us as non-worthy when the real issue is YOU are not comfortable in your own skin? Why should I carry your burden of self loathing?
There is so much hate directed towards our race and yet we hate each other more than any other race.
Every black woman is not lazy, on welfare, violent, baby momma etc. etc. Just as every black man is not a thug, deadbeat dad, in jail, out of work bum, woman beater, etc. etc. But, some celebrities and non-celebrities of color continuously label us as such.
We seem to be the only race that bashes our own while our enemies aka other races sit back and laugh at our ignorance.
Black men , you should know when you talk about your hate for dark skinned women/black and label us all as ugly inside and out you are shaming the woman who gave birth to you. Be it not for her you would not be here to complain about anything.
I refuse to be pigeon holed by ignorance. I love and embrace my beautiful black skin but my skin is only just a taste of who I truly am and if you feel my skin is a deterrent of getting to know the real me then it is your loss and my gain.
Wow this was sad to read. Really I have no words. Sadness and anger are the only thing I can feel at the moment
added you to my blog roll. on point post sister
I liked your article. I love Kevin Hart, and I’m dark skinned. I’m a little hurt that he feels this way. I’m not really surprised as much by the others, though. But Kevin, I always assumed if he said something negative, it was pretty much just jokes. idk. I’m gonna have to rethink how big of a fan I am. Thanks for posting this. If you want to hit me back, I’m at sexualtoppings.com.
So if black women were able to make their skin white and be the same women does that make her acceptable? Because how does skin color make you a different person? I thought it was a matter of your upbringing, rather you had two loving parents or one. Isn’t it a matter of how you feel about another person? Because I think every woman goes into her relationship with the utmost desire to love her partner truly & compassionately. If he gets sick or is sad or unhappy, she feels it too. So what these brothers are truly saying is that they prefer to be with a lighter/whiter skin woman because to THEM that is what’s beautiful in their eyes and that’s okay, because you can choose your preference whom you want to date or love. But to say you don’t date or could never love a dark skinned woman because she is negative or whatever is contradictory to state. What do you men of preference have to bring to the table for these other women. If you were poor, uneducated, criminal background etc..Could you still make these dispassionate claims? Most of these men seem to speak so condescendingly comfortable because of they have gained famed or fortune and feel as if this is what gives them right to state so profoundly on their discern for women of color. But lets not forget the words of one of Miami’s notorious black male rappers stated and is true to stand by today. Not matter what it is you gain in this world Black men you are and will always be “STILL A N*GGA” and nothing or no one can ever change that!
Black women have every right to be angery at this rude comments those men made about them. However, us woman needs to stop stay in one place and allow the same type of end disrespect us and abuse us. This is 21th cen and nobody and nothing rarerly follows the old traditions. Mix racial dating/marriage is common now days. I think it doesn’t matters what color is a persons skin as long as we are happy with our man and they respect and loves us. We gonna learn to walk away from this haters who will only bring us down and find a real man who will accept and love us. Us woman just like men, we are not prefect and we surely can’t change any mans mind so why not change oursevel and walk away. I am pretty sure there will be more then one beautiful black man that will more then glad to take a black womans hand and love her. You just have to find it and leave rest of them haters alone. I am an Asian woman by the way and I refuse to date Asian man and I don’t see anything wrong with that. I loves a beautiful strong black man just like any beautiful strong black woman would. Keep ur head up!!
This post is so painful because it’s the truth. These celebrities are pathetic and do untold damage to the Black community. I love your blog. I write about similar themes but from a UK perspective. http://Www.blackwomanwhitedress.com feel free to have a look.
Thanks
Sudelicious
Awesome post..
Thank you very much.
Sorry, I meant NOT loud and ghetto…
I have really just had it with all the negative stereotypical behavior that is of the black men. The ones who go on to become someone with fame and fortune turn on their own kind because they are now to far from where they started to remember what it is they’ve went through and how we are all still overcoming the conspiracy that has been placed on the black race as a whole!!
I have watched all runs of the Housewives. This includes Beverly Hills, Atlanta, New York, New Jersey, Orange county etc and they all pack drama. Look at Teresa from New Jersey Housewives!! She and her husband were living outside of their means much like Sharee has done for many episodes of Atlanta Housewives and their main claim to fame was the material goods that they had which is just like!! Look at Brandy on Beverly Hills Housewives and how she is nothing but a trashy sex crazyed disgusting tramp and carry’s herself like a whore!! Look at Kim who’s Kyles sister on Beverly Hills who is a drunk and a drug addict. Taylor Armstrong from Beverly Hills Housewives was getting her head beat in by her man in an abusive relation and every episode consisted of drama amongst the girls.. I mean Jersey Shore should be taken off the air because all those clowns do is drink, have sex with all sorts of random strangers and fight.. The point I am making is when Brian White said there aren’t enough positive black women on TV honey when you looking at reailty TV what do you expect.
Hell Hollywood isn’t pouring out positive roles for black actresses now are they?? Taylor Perry movie do not just reflect on black women they reflect on the many mistakes black people in general make!! Was Dairy of a Mad Black Woman made to show that a black man will run to a white woman and leave a sister yet that white woman will run at the first sign of trouble!! The first thing the hussy he cheated on his wife with did when he got shot was run and take all his money.. Now if that ant a true statement I obviously don’t know any..
For better of worse with Angela and Marcus now show cases him as a reformed man who supposedly isn’t cheating anymore but correct me if I am wrong. In the movie why did I get married Marcus was a washed up ex football player who took care of Tasha in the begining but as he fell and she began to rise was she or was she not taking care of him?? Paying all the bills pretty much??
Women in general can be a trip. Hell Tigger Woods was married to a white woman so what’s his reason for cheating like he did. I mean after all being with a white women is all rainbows and roses right??
Terrell Owens is another one!! Bless his pitiful soul. He stated to Kita that he didn’t see how she made into the contest in Miami because of all the other pretty girls (which playing or not was definitely a put down) but now that his money short how many blonde bombshells he got riding his train now?? Last time I saw him he was in Miami crying over his career ALONE!!
I don’t want to get religious because some don’t follow but God is tired of all of this madness and at the end the fallen shall rise and the higher ups (or so you think you are) will crash and burn so BLACK WOMEN keep your heads up and continue to take care of your households and your kids.. God has something in store for you.. To the sell out porch monkey’s who down play us!! May the door knob hit you swiftly in the ass on your way out of our lives because being as week as you are we don’t need you anyway!!
If I was a white women I would be offended about a blacks man attraction of you. Basically black men like that white women sit down and shut up, and play fetch when told to.
I absolutely salute you.
These men are a disgrace Cree. You notice how they’re rewarded for disrespecting black women? They’re always there to do the bidding of massa. It makes me sick! Makes my stomach turn!
As a black man,I’m embarrassed! These negroes should be ashamed of themselves. A nation can only rise as high as it’s women. I wish these fools understood that. They are a disgrace to all black people world wide. No wonder other races laugh at us. No one respect a people who don’t honor their OWN mothers. These guys are nothing but self-hating,boot licking,negrophobic Coons!
Ok so tonight I get this article sent to my phone from a female friend of mine who wanted to know my take on this. I tried to respond on the train but it kept going through tunnels lol….so here goes. I am a 32 year old black male, who lives in Atlanta GA. I have to say that Black MEN and Black Women are enemies. We are no longer on the same team. I see it everyday, time and time again. Even some of these comments are just as hateful as the so called few black entertainers who made negative comments. See what many of you women fail to realize is a lot of black men are just as tired of you as you are of us. Where do you all think this hatred and animousity for black women comes from? Do you all think it was just born out of thin air? Do you all know how many black men feel and think like these few guys? What are ladies going to do? How can you ladies fix these problems between black women and men. Yes it falls on you black women it truly does. Sadly I will have to say black men are too stubborn to fix this problem. Many black men are very angry with black women because of how they leave black men at the finishline and taunt black men with their degrees and good jobs when many black men can not get them. I know many of you black women may say “well thats not my problem” Oh but it is…Many of you ladies keep bringing up the mother, sister, aunt argument as a way to make men feel guilty for not loving you. It does not matter the race of our mothers or sisters or aunts, we dont date or have sex with our mothers, sisters and aunts. Black women have to do what they do best that is LOVE. I feel it is time for not matter what a hurt black man says (these are black men in some form of pain) Black women need to co sign them. If you all continue you to fight with us and attack when we vent, the war and battle between black men and women will continue to go. All these men are doing is venting. they dont hate black women and to any foolish woman who feels that is just stupid. I think you all LET these white women take your men away from you, you all let white women out love and out care for black men than you do. Again I will say black men are far to stubborn to fix these issues. Only black women can fix it and until you all decide to start loving & caring for black men…like a woman should. Then these men will not to vent to the press about pains, stresses and frustrations they may have had to deal with. I know some typical angry black woman will attack my comments but I felt what I am saying needed to be said. Goodnite.
Bwahahahaha… I’m sorry, you are joking right? Fix yourself, I’m not your mommy.
I had to get in on this one. Black men need to fix themselves, black women are not your mothers. You need allow Jesus to fix you. The black communities (black men, leaders, many fathers, abscent fathers) have failed to be role models. But it is not too late for you to start fixing things now. It is your God given responsibiliity as men created by God himself. Not the black women, for she can only fix herself. The women gives birth and feeds you, go to work,etc.,what more do you expect from her? You have been blessed with the physical strength and mind to protect the women and children by God himself. But too busy blaming the black women and white men because of your own self pity. Yes there is racism by whites (male and female) but at this point and time, many black men seem to be doing a good job of this same racism themselves to black women. I mean you all hate who you are. Use this negative energy in a positive way and not fight with women. Take your case before the black community and see how you can make a difference. Start on the basketball court, the gym,church, schools, parks, work, football field, in front of the TV watches the Lakers game, etc. where there are other black men. Encourage them to be men, to take care of your children, stay away from jail, be a hard worker, respect women and girls, mentor young boys, go to college, etc. Is this asking too much? Or is this too much to ask? For too stubborn? Get un- stubborn, yet another excuse. Men of other races do this and it comes naturally. Date whom you like but understand we black women will do the same. No one is fighting with you but it is the other way around. So there is no need to manipulate our minds here seriously. You are men act like men and carry your own weight and at the end of the day, you can carry the women. Should God have made you white with blue eyes and blond hair? It seems you are not happy in your skin. Do read your bible begining with Genesis. Btw if you feel guilty about us bringing up mother, sister, aunt argument then maybe you should feel guilty. Because this is all very real but you have a right to date whom you choose but don’t have the right to disrepect God’s creation (black women,girls) God help us.
Or Black women can continue to get their degrees and leave the Black community and Black men alone. Dude, the white women can have you and I say that with no animosity. Black women get your degrees and RUUUUNNNN! There is nothing to save or fix. Why would you even want to be in or fix anything with so called men like these. Do you all want to really live in a community with them? Newsflash…A lot of Black women are doing precisely that-getting their degrees and they are gone…These issues and what these so called men including Jay laflare have to say is of no concern to them AT ALL! Join these FREE Black women, Black women and you wont have to be hurt or even concern yourself with Black men….After all what is the big deal about Black men anyway? What do they do, own, control, what businesses do they have, what do they give Black women?.
Black women, the reason why Black men show their asses to you all all the time is because BLACK WOMEN ARE THE ONLY GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO PAY ANY ATTENTION TO BLACK MEN. So walk away from them and free yourselves-then you wont have to even concern yourselves about supporting or not supporting. Get your degrees and RUUUUUUNNNNN! if you all have any self esteem and self respect that is. I would be alone forever than to deal with jay laflare and so many other Black men….Black women -You have so many choices being in America- in men, jobs, neighborhoods, who to support or not- USE THEM OR SHUT UP AND STOP COMPLAINING!
I have to reply after reading that reply from Jay LaFlare ; See ladies this is the “mule you” kind of behavior and mindset that I know all of us (bw) despise!!
Absolutely WITHOUT A DOUBT it is NOT NOT NOT in anyway our responsibility to fix, cajole, coax or soothe any Black man.
Black men take this as a promise - there are MANY MANY MANY MANY Quality Loving and Loveable men who are WHITE who love black women, WILL date us, WILL MARRY US and suprise suprise - have MARRIED US Black Women.
And these WHITE men by all proportions make better husbands, providers, and will protect us BW from actions of lost beaten Black men like you Jay LaFlare.
And take it from a Black woman who IS married to a wonderful white man…I never ever have to interact with men like you, my day is stress reduced, I live in a safe progressive neighborhood in a large Midwestern city….there are MANY couples like us and I for one black woman am glad I didnt listen and take in those messages of “lowered value” from black men like you.
And to the black women who read this post - just don’t believe or read or patronize black men’s blogs, sites, movies, books ( from ideas stolen from others ), or the movies that erase us black women from history…etc!! You are all wonderful women who deserve to have love, protection and joy.
Just keep it moving and date outside your race. There are far more men in the universe than this pitiful sampling of damaged creatures in this post.
And here is another thing; Let’s address this from a societal view point.
Do you all not recognize that in a normal society - the men folk build up, protect and provide for and never abandon their wives, offsprings and homes.
In a normal society this fosters strength, cooperation and the FUTURE of their own kind.
So let’s review- here as Jay has so openly declared is the sentiment of MANY black men. His words ….
.” See what many of you women fail to realize is a lot of black men are just as tired of you as you are of us. Where do you all think this hatred and animousity for black women comes from? Do you all think it was just born out of thin air? Do you all know how many black men feel and think like these few guys? What are ladies going to do? How can you ladies fix these problems between black women and men. Yes it falls on you black women it truly does. Sadly I will have to say black men are too stubborn to fix this problem. Many black men are very angry with black women because of how they leave black men at the finishline and taunt black men with their degrees and good jobs when many black men can not get them”
Okay ladies, let me dissect this one. I am a law student so I am having fun with this man’s open full display of contempt and conquered mentality.
First off - from Jay’s words - ..”what we women fail to recognize is that a lot of black men are just as tired of you as you are of us”. Okay this is the first glimpse of Jay’s admitted defeat. See Jay has been defeated by the hegemony of white men. He is yet another glaring example of bluff and hot air. He knows that he has devoted time to developing his mentality so as to be of BENEFIT to a Black woman. So, in his defeat he has now decided to pick up stones and throw them at the heads of women who look like him. This is an example of self hate. He joins in the chorus of other defeated Black men and sing the same ol’ song —see below.
Second - The same old sing song of ” many black men are very angry with black women because of how they leave black men at the finishline and taunt black men with their degrees and good jobs when BLACK MEN CAN NOT get them”
Ha ha. The famous ” who do you think you are black girl..going to school getting a degree moving on…I CANT GET one!! Are you kidding me. Unless I woke up in some other country than America and unless it is pre - 1965…there is not one school or university that I know of that says Blacks cannot attend. And yes, I am aware of institutional racism and the ol’boy network of legacies etc., etc..but in the overwhelming general nature of the US educational system , a black male can attend any where from a community college, to a university. Soooo that sing song whining of ” see black women got all the jobs and degrees” is just a lie. An excuse, and yet another arsenal in the damaged defeated beyond repair repertoire of a man like Jay.
And for the record - I am soooo glad that this guy named Jay is serving as the voice of “everyday local black guy “. I appreciate FULLY the advance warning or should I say the confirmation of what I learned a long time ago - that it would be best that I take my educated head with dreams of being treated with love and respect and care and passion on across the color line where I knew instinctively that I would be fulfilled, protected and loved.
Now on to my third and final point - The most intrinsic deeply imbedded okey doke - the MULE-ING talk. And allow me to explain this one. First and foremost this expousing that the BLACK woman is so called responsible for “fixing” this “problem” between Black men and women.
When Jay said this I just smiled sweetly and recognized immediately this long held, well entrenched method of keeping BLACK women “muled”..i.e tied to a farming instrument pulling laboring in quick sand..the heavy work, the dirty work…the kind of work that puts callouses on your hand..the sweaty brow…the
huffing the puffing the pulling…do I have to use any more metaphors???
No.
Because see the building of a society is to be done by the men folk of that society. The men folk, are supposed to do the chopping, the hauling, the building, the lifting, the toiling. That is NOT to be done by the women folk.
That is because what has happened is that - the time that Black men should have been using to build, protect, provide for the society of women who looked like them…they decided that the power that they saw, knew and felt that white men have ( and still have ) they ( Black men) wanted it to. So what is the surest short cut to accquiring power…through the women of a society.
A normal society/community rises and falls based upon how well the women and children are provided for. Without the women and children the society/community will never REPLICATE…ie grow.
Back to this decision to take the short cut that Black men sought. The white female became the end all be all as access to power for the defeated and conquered Black males. In turn the white female became in the eyes of Black males like our spokeman Jay as the access to power.
I dont think I need to lay out how intrinsically important power is to the male species. So I hope that all who read this can make their own logical connection.
Now as it pertains to that detestable “muling effort” as spoken of by Jay - what woman would WANT to be shackled and tied to the monumental collossal behemoth weight of PULLING an ENTIRE SOCIETY up???
What woman wants this??? No woman that I know of. That is because as a woman you are supposed to be free, lovely, praised, and put in a position of honor, love and fidelity. That is because in a normal society —and we are going back to the beginning of this discussion — the men folk protect, provide, care for, and builds up those who look like them, are a part of them and are the offsprings of them.
Now that is what happens in a normal society. Is this what happens in the so called “community” of Blacks?
I am sure we all know the answer to this question. Here is the smart savvy black woman’s answer : I am going to mingle, date and only marry and mate with ONE male from the collective society that has SHOWN that they protect, provide and care for ME!!!!!
Thank you! Thank you!
Brava!!!! Yes, speak the truth and shame the devil. I am not and will never be anyone’s mule!
I logged in JUST to give cyber-applause to Way Over It’s comment. You nailed it!
VERY interesting debate! If you want to see a similar article from different perspective check out this one at AfroDaddy.com:
The Media Brainwashing of Young Black America:
VERY interesting debate and Bougie you are speaking truth. Here is a similar article from AfroDaddy.com
The Media Brainwashing of Young Black America:
SISTA’S PLEASE STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHO BLACK MEN ARE MARRYING AND DATING. PLEASE STOP SUPPORTING THESE FOOLS. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF AND LOVE WHO LOVES YOU! PLEASE, PLEASE, TRAVEL, ESPECIALLY INTERNATIONALLY. LET’S KEEP IT REAL, BLACK MEN ARE DONE.
THINK ABOUT IT, WE HAVE A HALF BLACK PRESIDENT IN THE WHITE HOUSE, WHO DOES NOT EVEN DISCUSS OR HAVE A PLAN IN PLACE THAT FOCUSES ON THE STATE OF BLACK MEN: EXAMPLE: CRIME, GANG VIOLENCE, OVER CROWDING THE PRISON SYSTEM, DRUGS, AIDS/HIV/STD, UNEMPLOYMENT, POOR EDUCATION, MENTAL ILLNESS, ETC.
BLACK MEN ARE ANGRY WITH BLACK WOMEN BECAUSE WE ARE PROGRESSING AT A HIGHER AND FASTER RATE GLOBALLY/INTERNATIONALLY (EDUCATION, BUSINESS, ETC.). WHAT IS HAPPENING IS THAT BLACK MEN ARE NO LONGER COMPATIBLE WITH BLACK WOMEN:) THAT’S WHY STEVE HARVEY FELT A NEED TO WRITE A BOOK AND PUT OUT A MOVIE “THINK LIKE A MAN.” TO TRY TO THROW SISTER OFF TRACK, MAKING US FEEL GUILTY FOR WANTING SOMETHING BETTER OF OUR MEN. WHY SHOULD WE ACCEPT JUST ANYTHING? OTHER NONBLACK WOMEN ARE NOT DISCOURAGED FROM WANTING BETTER MATES, WHY SHOULD WE.
BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH, SO LIVE LIFE FREE, FULFILL YOUR DESTINY THAT GOD HAS CHOSEN FOR YOU, AND DON’T LOOK BACK:)
Amen!
Absolutely ridiculous.
Well said!!! Loved the comment “OTHER NONBLACK WOMEN ARE NOT DISCOURAGED FROM WANTING BETTER MATES, WHY SHOULD WE.” And, feel free to read my post down below. Your opinions are welcome.
“He knows that he has devoted time to developing his mentality so as to be of BENEFIT to a Black woman”
CORRECTION; Sorry for the typo. This sentence should read-
“He knows that he has NOT devoted time to developing his mentality so as to be of BENEFIT to a Black woman.
Way Over it!!!
I have to say I’m “way over it” as well.
Thanks Rose!! This has been a great post at this young lady’s blog. Keep it movin’ has got to be our motto as black women. Reciprocity is a requirement in a relationship.
And if anyone is not finding fulfillment and reciprocity in any kind of relationship, it’s common sense really to just move on.
The key issue in this post is the sick demented hate espoused in those captioned comments in Bougie’s post.
I have greatly enjoyed reading the post and all the worthwhile comments here!!
Thanks again Rose!
Thank you so much for your support!!!!
There simply isn’t enough time for me to comment all that I really want to say, but two things I’ll say first- thank goodness I found your blog by way of subscribing to “Beyond Black and White” and second, I am absolutely disgusted over hearing about the attacks against black women, mainly by black men. In fact, reading this post has inspired me to go ahead and create a segment dedicated specifically to black women on my own blog.
Okay- let this be read, forwarded, text, tweeted, BBM’d and told to any black man reading - we really don’t give a shi_ what nationality of woman you date, so get over yourselves. Whether it was from times of slavery, to Jim Crow days, serving overseas in the military, your relocating to Iowa or any other excuses mentioned that explains your attraction to anything BUT the likeness of your mothers, grandmothers, aunts and sisters, handle your business.
What we do not need to hear are the bs reasons, hateful comments, rants and dismissive lyrics you baffoons continue to spew out of those pitiful minds of yours. As if we don’t already have enough to deal with, black women surely don’t need our own men tainting the minds of others, especially non-black men. Since we realize how much many discriminate against anything that doesn’t look mixed or I love this description - “exotic”, if our hair beads up instead of looking wet and wavy when stepping out of a swimmng pool, and the likelihood of having children together coming out looking…. BLACK, some of us would like to try our luck outside of this hatred-infested pool and swirl with other ethnicities.
But guess what? Your negative images and descriptions of us aren’t exactly making us appealing to any man of another race because surely they’ll think “if their own kind doesn’t want them, they must really be screwed up”. With that being said, date and marry whoever you want but stop the slaughtering of our image.
There, my rant is over. Sort of…
The ignorance displayed by the likes of the Slim Thugs and the Lil Waynes of the world will live on, because there is always some woman out there who just doesn’t care.
Ugh. Reading things like this make me sick. Literally.
Thanks for sharing B&B, you’ve got a new follower here! 🙂
“Your negative images and descriptions of us aren’t exactly making us appealing to any man of another race….” You know, these black men are glad you stated that. This is their goal to keep you in bondage and for no one to want you. To smear, slander and disrespect you so nonblack will not want you. Call it cock blocking if you may. But it is just plain evil, how low they have gone with this. Besides self hatred of themselves and their I have arrived attitudes. I have to disagree with you on this statement though. Any man of another race if he is interested in a black women can figure all this out for himself. They know the real problem in the black community as we have stated they have failed as men and leaders, not black women. Move on ladies and for black men, keep moving and please there is no need to look back. Did God say you have to be with a black man for a relationship or marriage? Open your options up to nonbm. That is if you choose to, and want a qaulity,loving,lovable man. (Evia’s QLL)
Loved your response. Loved the comment “…so get over yourselves.” Feel free to reply on my post down below…would love your opinions.
That is what I do not get. This man child has repeatedly bashed Black women and yet Black women still support him. Smh!!
once again not surprised many blacks, especially entertainers, who are rich coon for the almighty dollar. But this article just proves how terrible the community is now. We were once close, died for each other, now we’re our own worst enemy.
What the hell is going on in “Black America” ? Black people wake and truly smell the coffee, you are beginning to totally self destruct and the world is watching and laughing. From slavery to Jim Crow to proudly calling yourselves “African-Americans” other black people in the Caribbean, the U.K and the rest is closely watching while you people attack and use racism towards each other. I am so ashamed of all of you because you claim to be from the land of opportunity, yet you fight and pull each other down like crabs in a barrel.
You allowed the white man to totally distort your thinking and now have the feeling that everything “white is right”. So many of you are just making kids with the other races so as to have “good hair” children not realizing that very soon blacks in America will be extinct !
God help you guys, you need it. So far away from your African selves and knowing and loving who you are, it sickens me as a Afro-Caribbean woman to read these terrible stories. You will all self destruct,,I give it about another 20 years and there will be no “black” people in America.
Sis, they are sick and delusional. The women and the men. Even though blacks have these same issues worldwide. American blacks area the worst. I am African American and it hurts my soul to see the demise of black love. It sickens me to see the bragging on how good the white man and woman are. Slave mentality af its best.
I’m gonna have to disagree with you here. I’ve heard your arguement before. This shaming tactic that black women and men are equally at fault for not supporting each other. Joanne, what you and others refuse to realize is that if black men refuse to make families with and marry black women then there is no black family and no (healthy) black community.
What do you suggest? That while black men marry out, we should just sit home and nit? Are we suppose to take their insults? Their denigration of black women? It isn’t healthy to love or support a group that demeans you. And unfortanatley that means black men. If a non-black race were to hurl these insults to black women, you would consider black women insane to be fiercely loyal to them. So why should we take this from black men? We can’t force black men to marry us, to uplift us, or to support us. So it’s time to pull out and get out.
I’ll quote a comment from “shecodes” from another blog on this issue:
“It’s not the way that it was supposed to be. But it is the way it is.”
Hey, I don’t know how i got to this site but, I’ve got to say ( and this is coming from an Mixed race indian guy) I love black women.
I grew up in south London amongst Jamaicans, Nigerians and West Indians. What I have noticed more and more is the way young black girls are wearing weave on there heads. The media is constantly showing black celebrities with blond straight hair.
An afro is the natural state of a black womans hair, be proud of it.
I didn’t know about the quotes made above, but they are truly sickening, and our kids look up to these people?
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First of all thank you for posting this blog. People must understand that these men obviously have a color complex going on. However you chose to cut the situation, Black men, you are apart of Black woman and vice versa. Without either of the two, we would not exist. We are the beginning and the end. Black folks need to realize that. There is nothing progressive or positive about a Black women or men belittling their counterparts. People, the color caste system, patriarchy, and white-love and privilege are very real and they play very major roles on the prospectives of these men, We all need guidance. The basis of truth is looking at who you are, what are you made of and how that relates/translates into the present world. Knowledge and recolonizing your mind is imperative. If this is not done, your race will die off and be a distance memory. I’m sure many people will say in respond to that, “Race does exist”, anyone who chooses to believe that, is ignorant and foolish, When a thing of that nature are said, it’s like saying slavery never happened and Black women and MEN weren’t used as commodities. You may know a little about that moment in time but what don’t know about your African-ness. Up until now, Africans/Blacks have upheld Western white patriarchal culture (Not completely by choice). You know, their responds are to be expected. When Black men or women say things like what those men said, they have just proven that slavery worked. Not only did it oppress a group of people within Antebellum times; that oppression and love for whiteness continues to live within their ancestors. Understand who you are and embrace your African-ness.
First of all thank you for posting this blog. People must understand that these men obviously have a color complex going on. However you chose to cut the situation, Black men, you are apart of Black woman and vice versa. Without either of the two, we would not exist. We are the beginning and the end. Black folks need to realize that. There is nothing progressive or positive about a Black women or men belittling their counterparts. People, the color caste system, patriarchy, and white-love and privilege are very real and they play very major roles on the prospectives of these men, We all need guidance. The basis of truth is looking at who you are, what are you made of and how that relates/translates into the present world. Knowledge and recolonizing your mind is imperative. If this is not done, your race will die off and be a distance memory. I’m sure many people will say in respond to that, “Race does exist”, anyone who chooses to believe that, is ignorant and foolish, When a thing of that nature are said, it’s like saying slavery never happened and Black women and MEN weren’t used as commodities. You may know a little about that moment in time but what don’t know about your African-ness. Up until now, Africans/Blacks have upheld Western white patriarchal culture (Not completely by choice). You know, their responds are to be expected. When Black men or women say things like what those men said, they have just proven that slavery worked. Not only did it oppress a group of people within Antebellum times; that oppression and love for whiteness continues to live within their ancestors. That oppression is not only soco-economical and material; but it has become transcend and psychological. Understand who you are and embrace your African-ness.
wow, shall I say brothers. we black women went thru enough. after all these yrs and we’re still being rape. well there are black women that are very successful. we are educated. we have knowledge of what we want in life. women like us are head strong and we wont fall for ppl like y’all. fame don’t make a person nor money. by reading what u guys hd said u all less then a man. all dark skinned women isn’t like that.yall. describe
Best comment ever! LOL
We all have a job to do to improve the condition of our people. Each individual must make a conscious effort to change the way he/she thinks, and behaves toward self, and then others. It is only then that things will be different, because like it or not we are all in this together.
Kevin Hart’s tweets were in jest (he is a comedian), his wife and child are dark-skinned.
Which makes it much worse. When will it ever end? What if a white comedian made the same joke would you think it was in jest. Too many have been so brainwashed that they are willing to accept being treated like trash. No other group does this to their women.
Any negro man that disrespects his women is of the slave mentality he suffers from internalized racism. He is less than a man, he is more of a mandingo slave object. Some black men are insecure, self- centered and suffering lack of identity. Real men of any color do not disgrace or deface their counterpart. I am a black man that is married to a wonderful, intelligent black woman. I have a daughter that I would not allow to date a negro man. Any man that would disrespect my daughter he will need a place to run and hide like the coward he would be. To all you negro men that disrespect our women you are a disgrace to other black men. We do not need to make up excuses about black women in order to date another race. You make it bad for other black men who want only a good black woman. Man up or shut up.
black women, we deserve better, so do worry about this color struck fools who are only good for nothing. If they are so quick to call their preferences for non black women, well, I’m doing the same! I’m prefer white, asian, hispanic, indian, & native american men. Why? Because they do it for me. Life is too short to worry about wanting only one particular race men. After all, I don’t need any man or woman’s permission to swirl, I’m already doing it!
“I mean someone should send all these fags a memo and remind them that skinny jeans and leopard print aren’t something real men with balls worth squeezing would wear!!”
Im having an issue with the word”fag” here and the fact this comment is purely an a personal attack. The issue being discussed was totally skirted around.
Don’t forget he kisses another man on his lips.hahaha
Firstly the purpose of BWE websites, blog etc are to help black women realize their true worth and potential. Any one that makes the choice to speak negatively about black women is making the choice to do so, its not funny nor is “true” what people say. As Black women we need to widen our choices, that’s why there is an emphasis on dating outside our race, its clear to me that lots of black men are doing whatever they like so why can black women? What are we waiting for? We outpace black men in jobs, school , and income, look outside. You wont be doing it because you hate black men , but you will be doing it to exercise your options, black men have them, all other men have them but black women don’t? You can find quality men, and they dont have to be Black.
Back to the topic of this blog, I will not support any person, black or otherwise that is going to disrespect any race, or class for people. I don’t support people that speak poorly about blacks, gays, women or any race of people. Rap music is off my mp3 player, rap videos sorry I don’t watch them, any reality tv don’t watch. You simply should not spend your money with people that are not appreciative of you. Its not funny in Kevin Harts case or is it keeping it real in the case of Slim Thug or Lil Wayne. Just because its black or white doesn’t make it right.
Don’t forget to add Columbus Short to this list.
This article makes me so sad.I posted about this same thing on my facebook page a couple of weeks ago. They don’t hate black girls-THEY HATE THEMSELVES! That means they hate their mothers,sisters,aunts,nieces too. SELF HATE is a dangerous thing!
I can’t believe that guy said it’s the black womans job to fix these black mens attitude towards us. He said it’s black womens job to LOVE. I’m a black woman and it is not my job to LOVE. It’s my job to be LOVED. and I am definitely not going to LOVE men who don’t love me. The white man that I date LOVES me and makes it easy for me to LOVE him.
spot fricking on.
These guys are crazy. The good, beautiful black women that are smart and have their stuff together are cotched up with a nice white man that can appreciate what these fools can’t.
Wow. My friend sent me this article link and I am so glad. We have always said some of the same things. It’s a shame that more of us Black women can’t see and won’t see or refuse to see the truth or are just in denial. I’m really glad she stumbled upon your blog and wish more people would speak the truth like you. As a black woman myself, I Thank You and will definitely support your blog and come back to read more and more.
Hey black man you need to know that they don’t care about you either so care about yourself
I’m completely shocked by everything in this post. We must give credit where credit is due & I must say that I give credit to the white race for being the greatest scientists of evil EVER! He has created a problem in black America like never before. I’m a black man & when I first read the post about what the brothers in the entertainment industry were saying, I was completely disgusted with them! I mean, these brothers are packed with self hatred. Their comments sickened me to my stomach! I thought I could not become any more sick than I already was until I read the comments that followed the post. You all are beginning to help me to understand the white race’s hatred for us. We are such a foolish people that can be lead in any direction. Most of you sisters were so hurt by those foolish brothers comments, that you exposed the extreme sickness of your minds. Even though I’m a black man, I’ll try my best not to speak from a blackman’s perspective but instead from a black persons perspective. A lot of the comments on here, the “great” solution to the condition of the black man, was to just go date outside of your race. And vice versa, that is what the brothers are implying also. This is sickness! The black man thinks that he deserves better & that black woman nowadays “ain’t shit”. The black woman thinks that she deserves better & the black man “ain’t shit”. Is it just me or does anyone else see a pattern? And if there is a pattern, who designed the pattern? Who is the architect? I know what all of you sick black men are going to say, “it’s the black woman’s treatment of us that caused the rift”. I know what all you sick black women are going to say, “it’s the lazy black man’s fault, who don’t want to better himself & just want to lean on us”. SICK!!!! I have to ask this question to my sisters especially because we all know the age old saying ” if you want to hide something from a Blackman, put it in a book”, so this question is mainly directed to the black woman, since you all boast about your white man’s education, but I’m also asking this to black men, especially the educated ones & those that choose the white woman. Question: in all your years of study & so called higher education, did you all ever come across the name Sir William Lynch? I really hope that the answer is no because if you say you did & you still let him win, then that shows that you have not been educated at all! I challenge you all to look up Sir William Lynch & how to make a slave, and then tell me that the problem that we have today that that is not the root of it. This post & tese comments made me feel to vomit because here we are going back & forth with the self hatred as if we are the root of it. Any wise doctor who goes in to remove a cancer, knows that he has a better chance at success it he can get to the root of the cancer because if he can’t, the possibility is great that it will sprout again. Family, we are not the blame, there is another culprit who throws a stone, then hides his hand. Does the trans Atlantic slave trade mean anything to any of you on here? Do your anscestors mean anything to any of you on here? When all of the atrocities were taking place to our ancestors, do you all think they were saying to themselves “one day we will just fuck our oppressors & all our problems will go away”? That right there is like someone takes a machete & chop you on your head & you put a band aid on it. Insufficient!!! We have to go to the root of the cancer!!! What self respecting Jew would bring a German home to their parents? Not enough time has passed to heal those wounds. So what self respecting black person would bring a two legged dog home to their family? It’s so sad, all of you are defeated people. You’ll developed the strategy of if you can’t beat them, join them. Sick!!! One sister said ” the black man is done”, this is sick thinking. Not trying to bring religion into this but if we look family, the black man’s fall & RISE was prophesied in all scriptures on the earth. Our ancestors left a sign for us out in the desert of a lion’s body with a BLACKMAN’S head on it, known as the sphinx. We should ask the question why does the Blackman head have a lions body? And why is it a sculpture of a lion getting ready to get up? Also, if the Blackman is in a messed up condition, how did he get there? Is that your big solution to go lay with the person who put your man in that condition? Is that your suction Blackman to lay with the person who put you in a condition where you are not fit for anyone? Think!!! Lastly, I must say this to you sisters because I thought the brothers were suck for their comments but now I see that you are just as sick, if we take a careful look at the prophecies of what is to come, the black man is not only going to rise but he is supposed to rise to higher heights than before he fell. What do you all think his attitude is going to be towards all who either oppressed him or turned their backs on him when he was in his fallen state? What will his attitude be when he rules again? Study history of all oppressed people, when they got their chance to rule they made everybody pay!!! Don’t get caught in the trap, let’s bring it back together family! Just something to think about. Peace!!!
What happen to black power. Im black and Im proud.
Who cares they all ugly anyway I mostly see unattractive black men or broke dead beat black men dating these type of women anyway an they always seem to get fucked financially by these women in the long run for instance… Don cornelious an many many more added to the list.. by racial relationships between white men a black women last longer than it does between white woman an black men studies definitely shows its good these women take away these ungrateful dead beats they’re only punishing theirself for dissing they’re own kind cause in other races eyes they are still negroes an will never be more superior than they think they could be
Oyeah one more thing I don’t even listen to nun of these fools music an nor do I really give a damn about Kevin heart either so I don’t care they can keep these sale outs.
I think there are too many generalizations being made here. I agree with the premise that when these artists make disparaging remarks and disrespect our dark complected women that should not be supported. Your preference is your preference, and if you don’t have anything good to say about someone, don’t say anything. However, let’s face it, there is alot of work to be done by both Black men AND Black women. There happens to be alot of ignorance to go around, and it’s drowning out those of us who are respectful, educated, and positive. All anyone can hear are the negative shouts. And as a music industry veteran, I wouldn’t be surprised if these statements were made by these artists just to get a rise and keep their publicity up, unless they are just that ignorant. But anyone who can navigate a multimillion dollar career can’t be that ignorant. That may be the act, but it is often not the reality. Having said that, I’m not coming to the defense of the statements, which I was horrifed to read the snippets I did. Unless there’s some context that’s missing, I’m definitely not feeling that at all. On a personal note, I, as a Black man, have dated women of all races, as I have lived around the world, and I have to say that we as African Americans have the least respect for each other on both sides of the fence. That needs to change. As horrible as what these young men have said, I have not ever heard women being responsible in any way for this behavior. If Black women didn’t disrespect Black men, we’d see less of this. Everyone, especially Black MEN, would be all over the boy who dared disrespect a Black women. We all need to accept our part in what’s going on, if change is going to be made. We need solutions, not blame, for as long as we play the blame game, nothing gets done. the only thing that happens is more finger pointing, no responsibility. When we start seeking solutions, change can and must happen. And I think not purchasing music from artists who disrespect women is a good start for women. And men should stop supporting female artists who disrespect men no matter how hot they look. But all solutions start at home. Artists typically reflect society. They don’t create the problems, they just show us who we are. Let’s look at what WE do on a daily basis that disrespects the other gender, even ourselves, and start changing that. Just my two cents, or in this case, change for a dollar. LOL
Please stop. I’m really getting tired of black men deflecting and trying to say that black women and men are equally at fault. Stop the lies. You said black women disrepsect black men. In what way? What are you talking about??? Black women are doing everything they should be doing. Getting educated, pursuing careers, and -fruitlessly-waiting to find educated black men. But their aren’t many and the pool shrinks further thanks to black men that have no plans of marrying a black woman.
I noticed how you dismissed colorism as just a “preference.” That fact that so many black men, including yourself, see nothing wrong in favoring light skinned women over dark proves that you aren’t as dedicated to fighting racism as you claim to be. Colorism IS racism. Black men (and perhaps you) refuse to examine yourselves. Why do you find light-skinned/biracial women more attractive than the dark skinned majority? Why the refusal to connect your “preference” with the overall racist hierarchy of white beauty from white supremacy? There is no shortage of stunningly gorgeous authentically-black females out there. “Authentically” black means dark skinned. Why? Not to disrespect light-skinned black women, but if you aren’t attracted to dark black women, if you find them LESS attractive than biracial women, then you really don’t value real black beauty. And this is the problem with black men. They devalue black women and our looks. Until black males like yourself condemn colorism for the racism that it is, you are still condoning the denigration of black women. Because we ARE dark-skinned.
Black women rarely disrespect black men. As this article points out, black women worship black men so blindly that they support black men even when they disrespect us. And it’s time to stop. Black women aren’t doing anything. We can only focus on ourselves. If black men refuse to shape up and support US, then there’s nothing we can do for them. Stop spreading the blame.
The problem is black men.
My Dear Taryll Jackson ,Taj and Tj of the group 3T should be on this list. Taryll is abusive to black ladys ie Me 🙁 and he only date Spanish or mixed ladys
Black women are disrespecting black men all over the globe. CONTRARY to stereotype-lies. Very few on average black men date or care to date outside of the black race. Yet Black female celebs and everyday black women, openly and more internally prize non black men over black men. They go the extra mile sexually and emotionally. These different men receive the best out of black women no matter what. Black women have no memory of bad when it comes all things pertaining to non black men. They encourage and verbally appreciate whites and others to a point that its sickening. ALL WHILE SLAMMING BLACK MEN THEY HARDLY CARE WHETHER LIVES OR DIES. They’ve tried over and over to humiliate us whether demanding more from black men than demands of others…whether receiving propositions and compliments with greater openness from other races of men. So when you say that SOME black women consist to support SOME black men that disparage and demean the group, then a case should be made for all of the black women who are giving white men and every other race besides black, the right to put the on film doing some of the saddest sickest acts no one would ever believe. This is webcam porn…society, in dorms of university…and specially in the XXX business, particularly. Even when a somewhat racy scene is black on black, the owners who convinced the lady to do it are her white friends who own the Co. ….YET black men mostly keep quiet and support them..often saying “WE DON’T OWN THEM”. So odd how all other races own their women to a certain degree. Especially latin and indian groups. Its mainly asian and african descending parties who’s woman falls for every trick of whites etc. Even our men are becoming weak. White men date outside more than anyone and you NEVER have white women dishonor them the way black women are doing all over the place…and the sad part is, the black women who dont take part in it, also dont correct the bw who are a part of the mud campaign. I, myself, I’ve defended black women since I were young. Now 29. I never believed that love would not be should back. And its more than me. I speak for all black men. being Tossed to hell socially. OUR OWN ARE IN ON IT NOW smh. What race besides blacks would have an outsider come in a hero for a woman and demonize her same color mate. As Tyler Perry did in that Taraji film. “I Can Do Bad All By Myself”, I believe. Then the others are the same thing except no outsider portraying some knight. But still crapping all over black men as if OTHER MEN AREN’T BAD. AS IF ALL “BLACK” MEN “ARE”.
STOP SUPPORTING ALL MEN (AND PPL) WHO MARGINS YOU/US IN ANY WAY. BECAUSE WE’RE THE SMALL OF THE OVERALL PROBLEM. PAST PRESENT AND IN ALL LIKELIHOOD FUTURE AS WELL.
Thank you for bring this up yet again. When you are outspoken about this issue people are quick to say you got a chip on your shoulder. But this is real! Sad, True & Real.
This is the sad truth. I’m a teacher & have often had to read the riot act to some black boys for dissing black girls for saying they like light ones only, so & so wears fake hair, so & so is too black black, has nappy hair,etc. This seems to be a phenomenon that’s really gotten bad in the past 20+ years,esp since the days of the crack epidemic in the late 80s early 90s. That’s when rap came out with a lot of anti woman hate & black neighborhoods & overall behavior started to decline & self hate exploded. I do notice, tho, that a lot of these hater kids come from fatherless dysfunctional homes in bad neighborhoods,have no real male role models other than thugs, rappers & sports stars, & think manhood means bedding any woman in sight,fighting,carrying guns,& shooting people. The more middle class boys from 2 parent families or who have a single mom with a good support system , who seriously believe in education & the old school values that we had back in the civil rights days are not nearly as bad as this. These men mentioned here have seriously low self esteem & racial self hatred. Down deep they really believe white is better & that getting a white woman makes them more of a man. Also, white women don’t always see thru their phoniness like black women do & will often put up with mess black women wouldn’t deal with.
There is,however another side & that’s the way some of our young women dress,act,& behave. My nephew , age 22, refuses to date most of the local black girls his age because he says they’re loudmouthed, foulmouthed, act ignorant in public & don’t know how to dress appropriately. I have to agree because I see them on the streets with nightmare weaves down past their butts, low rider
shorts/jeans/skirts showing tattoos above their butt crack, push up bras under skimpy tops that make them look like hookers. I saw one with an uppercase tattoo across the top of her chest that said ” trust no nigga,fear no bitch”. Every other word is either mis pronounced or starts with “F”. Too many look & act like the ones on the Maury show. The black girls my nephew has dated are old school type girls like we were raised to be back in the 60s & 70s ” Don’t act in public like white folks think we are. Always put your best foot forward.” Nice boys don’t want these trashy loudmouthed ignorant acting girls & nice girls don’t want those ignorant gun toting woman hating thugs. To all you nice,decent young black women with some manners & education, if you can’t find good guys among our race,don’t be afraid to date outside your race. That’s what an old pal’s college age daughter did. Got sick of so many black guys being tail chasers & trifling & expanded her dating options. Now she’s engaged to a nice white guy & will marry next year.
Very in-depth response. It is always a pleasure reading truth & wisdom. Feel free to read my response as well below (4th article down). I’d love to hear your opinion.
I’d like to say,just because you watch a show does not mean you approve or act the way they do on the show..what if youre black and watch jersey shore? it doesnt mean anything because theyre not black? I agree with mainly everything on this site BUT the premise that if you get some entertainment from watching bbw or rhoa..that youre somehow approving or even confirming that this is the way black women are! but i will agree that black men seem to be the biggest bw haters..i personally dont base my relationships on race but have found that i am usually more compatable with white or latin or non-black men.I am a very ambitious person who feels that sometimes black men settle for less and are immature when it comes to handling business and other adult situations. but i was raised by an interracial couple(mom-black,stepdad-dominican) so maybe that has something to do with it.
oh and as for my biological father, my mom left him when she was 21 with 3 kids after being kicked out by her mom, no help from family..she struggled for years all because she couldnt settle with him! her mind frame was ” lets save money and get a house so the kids can have somewhere to really call home. lets not throw away our money into an apartment in the hood. lets move to the suburbs” his response-” i dont wanna live around all those dam white people. a house is just more work. you want our kids to be bougie and think theyre white..listening to rock and shit?” its important to know my mom didnt tell us this when we were young fearing it would make us not like him.(which i dont.) but he confirmed these beliefs just the other day when visiting he said” this a nice house yall live in around all these dam whiteys. ill date some pink toes(his name for a white woman) but cant live in a neighborhood like this” my point is basically..why stay with these bm? leave!! even if you struggle alittle you’ll be successful in the end. if not for you, then do it for your kids! even your future kids!!
Black women need to stand firm in ourselves and stop allowing BM, Media, Peer Pressure force us into trying to be something else. We need to Stand Tall in Our God Given Splendor, I can’t wait for this weave obsession to end!
Point 1:
Anyone notice it’s always YOUNG black males proudly announcing their love of white women?
Where were all the wonderful white women after many famous black male entertainers & athletes fell from grace?
Right off the bat I can recall Richard Pryor and Sammy Davis, Jr. In their prime, they chased white women…but when they became old & penniless, they lived their end days with a black woman taking care of them. And, the black women were rewarded by being left with NOTHING after these black male legends died.
Point 2:
I salute the strong black men out there who are secure enough with themselves to not have to put down a black woman to feel like more of a man.
Insecure black men can’t pick on white men; and, they can’t pick on white women…and get away with it. So they reach for low-hanging fruit and do what even child-molesters and rapist count on…the ease of being able to pick on the weakest and/or most vulnerable in society…
No one is going to lose sleep over black women being picked on or abused, so since this is all that’s left on the table, that’s what the insecure black men reach for to make themselves feel less inferior.
These men are worthless human beings. The only reason they get any ass at all is because they are rich. A lot of women from different races do not like black men because of skin color. They should be thankful they even get to f___ anyone. Anyhow, they themselves are black with kinky hair, instead of embracing what God has created they decide to perpetuate hatred towards their own people. Again, their own … dogs and other animals treat their own better. These men are not men.
So glad I’m married to a white man. Reading all of that garbage just made me throw up in my mouth a little bit- and I’m “light-skinned”.
Totally agree with this. Especially the “They aren’t coming home, they’re not changing” part. This bolds true for the female apologists who feel if they just say just enough and not step on any toes the message will be heard some kind of way because they still want to remain loyal. Black men don’t give high hell water whether you defend them, remain loyal or not they’re still going to feel, say and think whatever the hell they want to about you, it’s not going to change them or the way they feel. You tip toe’ing around the issue trying to keep them satisfied works for them but not your black ass. You’re just making them happy, giving them what they want and proving them right while you remain, bruised, battered and miserable from all their verbal abuse about you as a black female, you don’t care though as long as they’re satisfied and you can keep your black man some kind of way..**sigh**
Hello all! I’m Dorothy Lucey. I model, act, and currently producing a documentary on this same topic. I have never heard of this site but was not surprise when I read the post. 85% of Black Americans are sleep and I cant wait until March when my film is on DVD. This is ridiculous. Willie E Lynch method has officially been put into perspective. I just wish these White Wash individuals well.
If that’s what they feel, I feel sorry for them. As a Black man my preference is a Black woman regardless of her complexion. It’s evident that too many of “us” believe in the western standards of beauty. I need a woman with ” feet as burnt brass,” and “hair like lambs wool.” I don’t speak for all Black men but neither do the folks who bad mouthed our mothers, sisters, and daughters….
I don’t support any of these colorist, racist Black men anyways and I am a young, Black female. There is no point in supporting them. They are only for the detriment of our race and they hate themselves anyways.
We, as Black women, need to start making our own shows and magazines to show a positive self image of ourselves.
I am a Black Woman, and I can relate to all postings about the situation that black women are facing. We are being disrespected, disregarded and demoralized from our own black men to the public. All I ask of black men is to stop the behavior, because without BLACK WOMEN, THERE ARE NO BLACK MEN. We cannot accept these comments, because in actuality, your black community, women and men that see you along the way, help mold the child. The churches, community centers, teachers, these are the beginning stages of how your ideas began to take shape and help lead our black children into adulthood. My concern is how the parents of these black men accepts what their children are implying about their culture to the world. Their sisters, grandmothers, aunts, etc, how can these families accept that type of conduct. My only concern is also from the next generation coming, how are we agreeing to what they see and hear from these people making these remarks about black women to the public. I DO CARE AND AM DEEPLY CONCERNED FOR THE FUTURE. These black women have been there for all things, good, bad, sick, hungry. THIS IS HURTFUL, PAINFUL, AND HARMING OVERALL TO THE BLACK WOMEN.
CAN WE MAKE CHANGES AND MOVE FORWARD, WITHOUT PREJUDICES FOR OUR OWN PEOPLE.
THE TIME FOR CHANGE IS NOW 2014, STOP THE NEGATIVITY TOWARDS BLACK WOMEN.
The rest of them are out of line, but I have to say I agree with Slim Thug on many points. Some of his points are messed up but some of the points made abt black women is the truth. The thing is its not just black women, majority yes, but not all. You cant get mad at someone for speaking the truth especially after they have experienced it. I see this all the time, especially with black women in the hood. They will want a man to buy them this, buy them that, try to be the man of the relationship, and when your man wants to be a man you dont want to let him or you catch an attitude; You dont have nothing to bring to the table and barely take care of your own kids but want a man who’s on “top of his game”. Just like you want to be treated like a queen he wants to be treated like a king. How do you expect a man to wait on you hand and foot, but wont even cook him a decent meal when he gets home, rub his shoulders, ask him how his day was? I can just hear it now “Im not serving no man, fuck a man”. Low-key thats almost trying to enslave someone. You want him to go to work, bring you all the benefits and he gets nothing out of it in return and he just suppose to act like a little puppy dog, meanwhile you up here living it up, spending HIS money( the money HE worked hard for) while your man is feeling mistreated. I understand black women have it hard, harder than most especially darker skinned women; I see and hear abt it all the time, I understand where the hardness comes from because you gotta be hard to get respect, but once in a while unless you want him to become it- stop treating your man like he’s the enemy, like he’s everybody else or any other dude off the street, cause then he’s going to start acting like it. Where Slim Thug is wrong is acting like white women are trained puppy dogs while black women are just wild wolves. Women we are a lot smarter than men period, Im not saying go lick your man’s ass and the bottom of his shoes Im saying Its not always abt doing what he says, its abt letting him THINK he’s right.
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Very true. Why should we let these men slide just because they are black? In fact it makes it worse. As a kid the hate I got about my natural hair stung that bit more because it was all from other black people. These men are immature and ridiculous and I won’r excuse them with a “but during slavery…” ticket. No. They know better. And should we.
So true. Another reason why I don’t like Black American men and don’t date them. I suggest Black women who love themselves not to date Black American men.
They will sell you out for a White woman in a heartbeat
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Before I begin let me just say this; love does not seek color, people do, and I am in no way holding inter-racial dating or marriage in contempt. I support all love and all relationships as long as they are healthy. However, biracial children with at least one black parent will not be spared from the prejudices they will inevitably encounter.
Men and women of color:
Your decision to no longer “trip” off of each other, to pack your endurance and vacate in the lives, neighborhoods, families and arms of non-blacks, will not now and not ever cure the plague that has wreaked havoc in the black communities. You may choose to walk away from the black man or the black woman but you can never walk away from your blackness. The horrors of institutionalized racism can never truly be brought to justice if we ourselves are prisoners of colorism and separation. It saddens me to see that the love once shared between two people of color, a love that had for centuries carried us as a people across the fields of slavery into the houses of freedom, is now being abandoned or completely destroyed. We can never stand as equals among our white counterparts if we can’t even stand as equals among ourselves. I love my black men and hold dear my black sisters; so I implore you to question, not IF we will fight for change TOGETHER, but WHEN?? United we shall stand but divided we will always fall.
I feel like those quotes should tell the reader where they came from so we know they are actually real. Also, I feel that some of them are nothing to get upset about. For example, “I welcomed all women and went with the best…. I don’t do favors.” Tyrese. Why are you man about this? He didn’t “diss” black women by saying this at all.
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And the male coons come out to play once again! LOL! Noonji; darling, please go out and date a white woman, I want you to! Noone here is begging for a black man; but it’s cute that you think you’re so important (rolls eyes). Think about it, why would anyone want to be with men who are responsible for 80% of black babies not having fathers around? Who would want men who crowd every U.S. jail in our society? Who wants men who have the highest unemployment rates and lack of education? Ohhh yeah; sign me up for that! LOL! Black men who don’t want black women are actually doing us a favor. I strictly date nonblack men and have for 2 year now. My reason for dating out is easy; I don’t like dating little boys, who don’t know how to be men or support their families. I also don’t like males with victim mentalities; with black dudes it’s ALWAYS “the white man’s fault” or “the black woman’s fault,” no it’s your fault for being INADEQUATE!
I’m really feeling your post. I’m with a half Swedish and half Black man. He was raised in Sweden and also in a mostly white neighborhood in the U.S. I agree, because I’ve always and I mean ALWAYS see loser American Black men. I didn’t realize just how bad It was for American black women, until I started dating and had a baby by an American black man. I am not saying all non-American black men are great, but I tend to date out side of the black culture too. I find that I get a long better with intellectual men. The best relationships I’d EVER had were with non-American black men. I was dating everyone BUT American black men after I got stung by my kids American Black father. That mans mouth was so disgusting. Some black men speak to black women like they are superior to us, calling us ho’s, nappy headed, ugly. After my kids father I’d had enough and went and found me a real man. I had to search in white areas of the world for good black men, to be honest with you. IT seems black men in different countries and continents are more in love with American Black women especially if they are educated and have a modern way of thinking. Most American black men,truly turn me off.
The first problem is people need to realize what they are dating. Woman how want a man need to realize what a man is. God has a role and ways to deal with us. He has roles and ways dealing with you. Society works the same way. Respect that a man has to be a man. For men looking for a woman the same principle applies. Now to make it work compromise has to happen. Most men know happy wife happy life rule. Woman don’t know that means she wins all the small everyday battles and what pertains to her role issued by god. Now when a man needs to win his battle women don’t know to back up and shut up. Read the bible and see what God charges a man to do. No man is going to pick a woman that gets in his way because God going to deal with us if the house isn’t in order and if she isn’t doing her job. God doesn’t deal with the wife is the man is wrong. So why pick a problematic chick who doesn’t listen. Life is short.
Look at all the misogynistic brothers that came out to theirit little gathering. It was funny seeing these pseudo ankh negro males gather on Twitter calling the Elliot guy, the USC shooter, talking about how entitled and misogynistic white men are. But when it comes to the misogyny and sexism perpetuated by them and their fellow black brethern they’re silent as hell. Black men are selfish and want control and dominance over every thing,they don’t give a damn in hell about anything else.
The Blackistan leaders are a trip lmao!
As a young African American young woman I am appalled at such foolery. These men were conceived from beautiful Black women who raised them to become respectable men. It is a shame they allow a skin tone…a “Tone” smh to shape their image on what a “real beautiful” woman is. If that’s their case, they must be really insecure with themselves and with the presence of a strong black woman. And each one of them are chocolate brothers, speaking like they any different from any other human being. How dare you! As a woman we represent so much more than our butts, breast, and skin tone/color. We represent a nation of strength and independence. We reserve a high class of knowledge that is just as equal if not better than, the African American man. If they can’t respect that based off of foolish inquires, I feel sorry for you guys, I really do. Stop hating woman off of something they have no control over, because if we did the same to them, then they feel it’s wrong. The double standards are tragic and baseless. They need to take several seats and reflect upon themselves.
This whole article is completely ridiculous!! For the men to say that their mind set isn’t strong enough to deal with an african american female, so instead they choose these different race females that will bow down to listen to what ever they say. (Again WEAK MINDED) They can’t respect a female that has her own opinion…..Besides that have they ever thought their mothers are black and there isn’t any amount of money back and fix that!!! 🙂
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I don’t agree with what they say but they are entitled to what they have to say just as there are guys who hate dark skin their are twice as much who love them I’m light skin with a beautiful chocolate baby and I know she will meet or come across ppl like this but the way I’m raising her she wouldn’t even acknowledge heartless words like that. Not everybody like light women there’s nothing wrong with that. You go for what you like not for what people want you to like and why is Jesus/God brought into this he has nothing to do with it they will be damned for how they said it but what they said is nothing to be sent to hell about they are attracted to light skin than hey shoot for it
No actually I don’t agree with what they say but they are entitled to what they have to say just as there are guys who hate dark skin their are twice as much who love them I’m light skin with a beautiful chocolate baby and I know she will meet or come across ppl like this but the way I’m raising her she wouldn’t even acknowledge heartless words like that. Not everybody like light women there’s nothing wrong with that. You go for what you like not for what people want you to like and why is Jesus/God brought into this he has nothing to do with it they will be damned for how they said it but what they said is nothing to be sent to hell about they are attracted to light skin than hey shoot for it
I will never support these clowns! If they was white people making racist remarks about black women black people would crucify them so why when black men say racist remarks about black women do we give them a pass?
Because black people. don’t believe intra-racism is a problem because most of it is directed at black women and black men are the main one’s promoting intra-racism. So, of course they’re not going to say anything. They only believe the white man’s racism is the main problem not knowing that intra-racism and colorism are the offspring of white racism that’s been internalized.
A lot of them think intra-racism is a good “tough love” tactic to keep black women straight. Intra-racism is only directed at black women with the belief that only black men experience racism anyway, so a form of internalized racism we inflict on one another, that’s black women centered, is really a non-factor to them. It’s sad.
As you can see, any form of racism towards black men is blasphemy, only black men are the real black people **sarcasm** They automatically accuse black women who are womanists as being white supremacist because they dare call out anti-black misogyny and sexism black men help perpetuate, just imagine the stuff we’d hear if black women inflicted intra-racism on black men at the rate and level they do us.
The black community’s lack of concern for black women, and their coddling and protecting of black men makes addressing and eradicating intra-racism a fairytale or a distant hope.
you are so right,,,its sad that brothers are afraid of real beautiful black sisters, but guess what in the end…black women always win…i’m loving the skin i’m in…i truly believe black brothers are cowards when it comes to having a black sister by their side…we’re strong, educated, independent, and work just as hard as they do..truth be told we make brothers look good..that;s why they need women in all these sexiest video’s women are the majority…not the minority…we make money for them them. Let a lot of these brothers do video’s or make a song without using a women and see what happens..jmt.
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By lil wayne making that comment all he is doing is showing how ignorant he is and how much he doesn’t love his daughter. To say something like that is just hurtful. I took some pain from that and I am not even his child. If he had any type of a brain left, he would know that just because you have kids by a light skinned or white girl dont mean your kid will follow suit. I am a living example of what happens when it goes the other way. My father is lightskinned from a White German Woman and a Black American Man. I had people in my family that just knew I was going to be a yellow baby and I was at birth and as a baby but over the years I got darker and I ended up taking after my Great Grandfather on my mother’s side, I am told I look like a younger version of him. If you saw my father you would not think he was my dad. I love who I am, I am proud to be brownskinned, I am proud to see strong dark and brown skinned woman on television breaking down color barriers and letting the world know that we are not second class to anyone!
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As an educated and well-traveled black man. Most of us don’t hate black women as a person and we sure do not think black women bodies are ugly. What makes most black women in the USA and other western countries so ugly are their attitudes. Most of these black women want thugs and hood rats, then black men like me. Most of the black women say I’m too white, I’m weak and I’m not hood enough, etc.
I and others like me given black women first pick and what most of you black women do to good hard working educated black men? You dogged us out and treat us like shit. You can’t see pass the car money and look inside the black man’s heart. Most of you cannot see the potential of a black man that have a chance to make it and all it takes is a good women to make him realizes his dreams. Most of you are to fucking lazy to help build a life and dream together. Most of black women are like poison to good educated black men and would destroyed him the first chance they get. Most of you black women only think about yourselves. Remember Brian Banks and why he choices to date a white woman. Remembered Brian Banks.
Most of you messed around with these thugs and hood rats. You get ran through by the likes of Pookie and Ice pick. When they dogged your dumb asses out and leave you holding the babies, then you want to go and fine the good educated hard working black men that your sorry asses turned down in the past. Expecting them to take you in and take care of you and these thugs bustard kids. Then get mad when they turned most of you sorry asses down. Because why in the hell should they take care of kids that are not theirs and pick a woman that turned them down in the past over a woman that have no kids and a great credit report. Other words most of you black women have too much extra baggage. You only have yourselves to blame for this. The net worth of the average black woman is $5 and you cannot not buy bubble gum with her credit.
Most of you black women do not want to take accountability for your own actions and like to play the deflection games. Somehow some why you always find a way to put all of the blame onto the black men and others for your poor choices in men and actions. Most of you black women goes around and claiming your babies fathers are not worth shit, but yet you fucked them and so what that makes all of you? Most of you are irresponsible when it comes to your bodies and be having unprotected sex with men that are not worthy to have access to your womb and not worthy to be fathers. What you think will happen when they get you pregnant with a child that they will stay with you? Well think again ladies, they were shit when you met them and most of them will be shit when the baby is born. Shit goes in and shit goes out. They you want to blame all of the black men for your actions and start bashing them. When they say the hell with this crap and start jumping over the wall to the other side, then most of you get mad. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Most of black women today are poor choices when it comes to being mothers and wives. My Asian girlfriend and I was doing some food shopping at the super market. We saw a black woman with her kids, the mother was all dressed nice and clean. But her kids look like bums on the streets, with their noses running, smelling like crap and cloths looking like it has not been cleaned for a thousand years. People judge the parents by the way they take care of their kids and my girlfriend asked me why her kids looked like this. I told her the mother do not understand what it means to be a mother nor how to take care of her kids and that her kids are a reflection of her. She was just shocked to see firsthand what I was talking about and why I don’t date black women. Then she was hitting her kids, yelling and cursing at her kids in the store. Everybody in the area turned around and looked in shock how she was treating her kids. I bet you those kids do not have the same father and that she is not married at all. If the father happen to be a real good man, I bet she is playing the keep away game with the kids with him and using the child support system as a way to get revenge on the father. At the end of the day the one who pays for her crimes the most are the kids. Most of these kids that comes from broken homes or homes where the mother put her wants for revenge on the father and her other needs and wants over the child. Most of these young men get shot by the cops or end up in jail. Black women will cheat on their men at the drop of a hat. To make sure the kid is your child you have to do a DNA test on the child or they will try to make you 18 years a slave with child support to a child that is not yours. Black women have the highest rates of STDs than any other group of women in the country because most cannot keep their legs closed to men that are not her husband. http://www.cdc.gov/std/stats12/tables/11b.htm Then you have to come home to drama almost every night from work. When you just want to come home from a day of work to peace and a very supportive wife at night. Black women want to control everything thing and want to be the man. They will try and cut balls off their husband in public without no issues and they love to make a great big drama show for all of the world to see. They are more aggressive than women from other races.
So I compared black women in the USA to women from non-western countries. From what I see that women from these countries are far a better choice for a girlfriend, wife, and mother. Black African women from Africa are far better than women from western countries. Most of the women from Africa do not want to be associated with most of these black women from the USA and other western countries. Because most of them see the same things that I see and that most of you are very toxic. Black women ways and treatment of me pushed me away from them. Which forced me and other men like me into the arms of non-black women and African women from other countries. What most of you would say is that we can’t handle a strong black woman, the last time I checked a woman should not be handled, a child, bills and animals need to be handle, but a grown woman should never have to be handled. If this is the case then she needs to be sent back home to her parents for retraining and education. Most black women don’t know the true definition of what is a strong black woman is and how to be one. So I made the choice to date a woman from another race and country. By making this choice I finally found the peace of mind I was looking for a woman that is very supportive and willing to stand by me. Help me solved problems and not make them.
From what I see in the comment section of this page. I can see most of you black women have not learned anything so far and still playing the deflection games. What most of you are talking about doing is just giving the good educated black men that choose to date outside their race that they made the right choice. Please don’t get mad when you are left with the table scraps aka thugs, hood rats, drug dealers.
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