We all know we have a generation of sick antiBlack female misogynists. They are on social media and in our “entertainment.” What can we do to change their minds? Not a darn thing.
What bothers me is when I see many sisters playing Captain save-a-negro by trying to change their minds. Why are you doing this? You are wasting your precious time giving a flip about people who wouldn’t spit on you if your ass was on fire. Look, Pookie is gone. Ray-ray’s mind ain’t coming back. They gone. I’ll admit that trying to change them is an admirable gesture but it’s futile.
Well the truth is that they hate themselves. Now ask yourself, what makes you think they are going to love you if they hate themselves? They hate the skin they were born in. They hate being powerless and since you look like them and brought them into the world, they hate you too.
You want a strong Black population? Take Kola Boof’s advice and “raise new sons.” Stop trying fix a broken man like it’s a build a bear workshop. He isn’t your school project and regardless of the time and effort you put into him you aren’t going to get an “A.” These men aren’t changing unless they want to or are forced to. And trust me, they benefit from antiBlack female misogyny (harems of Black women, abdication of parental and community responsibilities, coddling, mammies, low expectations, and money) so they won’t change.
Raise a new son. Raise a new son to love their Blackness. Tell them they are limitless. Teach them about Garvey, Malcolm X , Booker T Washington and others. Tell them the truth, that the TV is a tel-lie-vision and that the idea of White supremacy is a lie. Teach them that colorism and sexism are wrong. Teach them to love honor and protect all of Black womanhood and to put her above all others.
It’s time to move on from those who despise our existence. Here is my advice and I will say this until Horus comes back, love those who have proven their love, loyalty and commitment to you. As Frederick Douglass said, “it is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” He figured that out many years ago. It’s time you do too.
Yes Yes Yes Thank you so much for this article. One day I will have a son and I hope to raise me a proud, black son and teach them the value of loving their race. God bless you Boogie black girl.
Much Love
Blossom
Amen, if a have a son this is what I will make sure he is taught because it is what I was taught growing up. Loyal to those who have shown and proven that to me family and friends as well. Great on point article.
Thanks. I have two sons. It’s time to focus on our little ones and people in our lives who will love and protect us.
I agree 100%
You had me until “Take Kola Boof’s advice. She is part of the problem and the flip side to the Tommy Sotomayer’s of this world. Anyone that can say “I suck the white man’s dick cause that’s where the power is”knows what she can do!
She claims to be for black women but the abuse she heaps on black women that question her is disgusting. Yes we black women have a terrible time. But let’s choose our heros/heroines a little more carefully!
I’m with you. I don’t trust Kola Boof’s advice. This is a biracial woman who says that biracial people - if they are lighter than her - should not be allowed to speak on Black issues. Soledad O’Brien is someone she named as an example. It’s hypocritical! If you are biracial you are biracial, no matter how dark or light you came out. So, that told me she has an agenda with some of the stuff that she says. I have two Black parents and I’m lighter than some biracials, including her, does that mean I should keep my mouth shut and let her speak for me and all other Black women? No ma’am. She has posted comments on certain blogs stating that “no one wants a Black woman”, yet will turn around and write an article that encourages BW to get involved with wealthy, married White men, which is not at all cool. I wonder what the hell her problem is?
Excellent! Thank you for writing and sharing this piece. Peace to you sis.
So true. I give up on these loser Black American males because most of them are colorist misogynist pigs. They hate dark skin women like me and Black women in general. And beware of colorist misogynist pigs from the Latino, Asian and Indian cultures too. They aren’t as dangerous as loser Black American male misogynist pigs however colorist misogynists from Latino, Asian and Indian cultures do discriminate against darker women. We, as Black women, need to watch out for them too
Re the Marcus Garvey reference, are you aware that he said he wanted to start an “all black” nation, but claimed he wanted to rule that nation with a white woman as his queen? He said he was searching for the perfect white queen… He was not an advocate for black women.