***WARNING ((Affiliate links!))***This post may offend you, and that is good. I want you to think in a different way. Step out of the confining matrix of what Black woman’s identity is supposed to be. You know what that is. It is that mammy maid slave conditioning where a Black woman is supposed to sacrifice her money, time, life and body for people who would not do the same for her. If she doesn’t do it, she’s supposed to be a race traitor. We reject that here. You’ve been warned!

If there was a list of banned books in the Black community, the books on this list would be it. Why? If Black women read them it would mean Black women wouldn’t be losing eyes on the front lines. They wouldn’t get shot at with rubber bullets or marching for people who don’t give a damn about them. It means putting herself first. Plus it isn’t full of the hotep myths that calls Black women queens when they really mean being barefoot, pregnant and a part of a harem for misogynistic and powerless men.

I want you to think like a ruler and the queen that you are. Reject the 400 years of mammy, maid and slave teaching. I want you to self-actualize, strategize, dominate and win. I’ll admit these books are old, but they are incredibly relevant to Black women’s lives today. In fact, I believe these will blow your mind because they will make you change the way you think. This list isn’t for the faint of heart. It is ruthless and real. If you are a moralist or think Black women should be content with being members of the servant class cover your eyes and click the close button. Are you ready to think like a queen? Here are some books every Black woman should read:

If you are surrounded by madness and dysfunction why not read Confucius’ The Analects (Oxford World’s Classics). Confucius was one of the world’s great philosophers and thinkers. His common sense, use of strategy and wisdom are timeless, and this book proves it.  Use it towards your advantage.


Want to learn how to strategize? The Art of War by Sun Tzu is the book to teach you. I recommend this book all the time. Even thought it was written a long time ago, regardless of technology, human nature has not changed. He shows techniques on how to beat your competitors and win. Here is the free ebook version The Art of War.


Want to think like a ruler? Read Marcus Aurelius’ brilliant Meditations. Marcus Aurelius was the ruler of ancient Rome from 161 to 180. He’s one of the Five Great last rulers of ancient Rome. This is a free ebook.


Do you want to learn how to get everything you want? Read Robert Greene’s The Art of Seduction. Some may see this as manipulative. I see it as the study of human nature and smartly using this knowledge towards your advantage. You are doing what everyone else does. You are looking out for your interests. Sis I guarantee that is a good thing. Also take a look at Robert Greene’s Interviews with the Masters: A Companion to Robert Greene’s Mastery. It is free on Amazon.


The Power of the Pussy - How to Get What You Want From Men: Love, Respect, Commitment and More!: Dating and Relationship Advice for Womenteaches you how to get anything you want from a man or anyone else for that matter. Need I say more?

HOW TO MARRY THE RICH: The Rich Will Marry Someone, Why Not YOU? by Ginie Sayles. Black women are the only group of people who are told to marry down. We don’t do that here. Too many Black women live in poverty. With the intersection of race and sex Black women can’t afford to be poor. Like every other woman, we expect Black women to aim high. Sis if this is what you want, let me reassure you. You are not a gold digger or evil. You are looking out for your interests like every other woman who has walked this earth.

We live in a world where we teach our children fairy tales where the good guys win, and the bad guys lose. You’ve been lied to. There is black, white and gray. I am not trying to be harsh. As I said, I want you to think like a queen. Queens know they will have to make tough choices that favor their subjects or in your case, your interests. These books will help you do it.  No more lies. No more poverty piety. No more playing the maid or mammy. Now is the time to plan, dominate and win. You see, I told you this list wasn’t for the faint of heart.

Have you read any of these books?

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