Warning and beware. If someone says it around you see it as a blessing. Avoid them! At least you know who you are dealing with. It indicates someone who doesn’t see women as human beings. It reveals a certain mentality. What is it? Men who call women or girls “females.” I wrote about this issue last year and my initial beliefs have come to fruition. Read it here.
This is my personal experience, but I’ve noticed some men who call women females usually do it to dehumanize and disrespect women. Either they disapprove of her or want to manipulate her. These people have a grudge against women and are usually:
- bitter because they haven’t accomplished their goals
- angry because they feel powerless
- jealous because women have surpassed them
- entitled because they feel like they should “have” any woman.
Before someone makes a false equivalence, because y’all always do; let’s acknowledge that you will rarely hear women identify men as males. Why? Because women see men as human beings. Unfortunately, because of thousands of years of sexism and misogyny, sometimes that view isn’t reciprocated.
When we call women females it is extremely dangerous women’s mental, emotional, financial and physical health. Again, it strips us of who we are and our identity if we don’t conform. You see, people who use this kind of language don’t see women as human beings, but as objects that must be used and abused for their advantage.
If men think calling a woman a female is OK ask them how do they feel when a man calls him a “boy?” It strips a man of his of age, manhood, experience and identity. I feel the same way when I’m called a female.
By the way, there is a reason many men call women “females.” I doubt it is from the police or military service (a very small percentage of this country actually served and I am a veteran). It is because they’ve adopted prison terminology, dress and mentality. As we can see, it is fashionable to emulate prison culture because a large part of our society actually lives or lived in it.
As Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” So please avoid people who deep down despise your existence or see you as less than a woman. We women are more than females. We are whole human beings. Because of our humanity, we must be seen as human. Honestly, who wants to deal with someone who thinks like an inmate or prisoner? I’ve done my PSA for the day. “Now you know and knowing is half the battle.” G.I. Joe
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