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Everyone knows about Marie Holmes. She’s the young mother of four children from North Carolina who won $188 million Powerball jackpot (take home was $88 million) and ended up bailing out her heroin addicted, drug dealing, woman beating and gang member boyfriend, Lamar (Hot sauce) McDow, four times.
He’s a real winner too. According to StarNews.com,”N.C. Department of Public Safety records show that McDow has several prior convictions in Brunswick County, including assault inflicting serious injury, assault on a female and several felony drug possession convictions. From 2008 to 2009, he was incarcerated for eight months in Brunswick County after being convicted of felony possession of a schedule II controlled substance.” In August she bailed him out twice for a total of $9 million and later on in the year for $12 million. Darn near 25% of her winnings went to bailing this ashy fool out. You’d think since his girlfriend won the lotto he’d give up that life. Apparently he’s addicted to it, like she is addicted to him. Read about the latest incident here.
Folks are calling her dumb, stupid and di*kmatized. Why everyone was mad at her? Um, she’s no different from the mamas who bail their babies out of jail even though they were guilty as hell. Marie is no different from the parents and grandparents who take care of their grown ass lazy adult children or the relatives who end up taking care of some random family members kids because bum ass mom and dad won’t.
What bothers people is that this situation is on blast for the entire world to see. This is mammying/ride or die on a massive scale and everyone else laughing at her and you too. It’s the crap we hear praised in dysfunction areas, entertainment and from messed up people all the time. It’s what folks do every day, on a smaller scale, but are ashamed to admit. It’s why parents, spouse, siblings, grandparents and cousins were late on their rent, light bill or didn’t have food in the house. It was because selfish ass adult child/cousin/spouse wanted bail/drug/crap money and your ass gave it to them. It’s what millions of lonely, low self-esteem women do every day when any ole ashy peen will do because they believe a man completes them. Sadly, they don’t see the greatness in themselves. That’s what bothers people.
The thing is the Maries of the world will continue to get used over and over again because they like fixing, saving and uplifting broken people. Why? Who knows? Maybe they are broken too. They’re the ones who scream “only God can judge.” Apparently the criminal justice system and the court of public opinion can too. All we can do is watch and act like that’s not us when it is. What do you think?
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AND IT’S NOT like she can’t get anything better. She’s adorable! Messed up but adorable. My mother did the same thing as I was growing up. She put her self in harm’s way for her man/boy ( my sperm donor, “father” is a word too good for him.). All during that marriage she put up with cheating, beatings (while pregnant or no), under or unemployed while she worked her buns off. That marriage was hell for her and me ( the eldest). here’s the thing, all her sister’s got sorry assed men/boys too! All seven of them! Turns out grandpa did the same ol shit..male privilege they say…what ever. I moved on from that mess.I slogged through college and professional school and looking to be a CEO in a couple of years. I am a single mom thru divorce but myself and my children are well care for, stable and happy. I am teaching my children self respect, self love and self agency. Thank God. The cycle is broken.
PREACH!!
Thanks for the good word today.