An open letter to Black women. Black misogyny is not the new normal.

Dear Black women,

I love and adore you so much. You are amazing. Without you many of us would not have made it this far. That is why I feel you deserve more than Black misogyny. You deserve more than being called a “black bitch”, a “broke ass hoe”, a “dark butt” or any other name. Let me tell you something. regardless of what others say this isn’t normal. No other group would tolerate or even endure this. Why do you?

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Black women are the most loyal group I have ever seen. No one can question it. From the abolition of slavery to the civil rights and Black Panther movements and even today, you have supported these movements that have not put your issues first.  Here is the truth. You are free. Do you think other groups would support people calling them b’s and h’s  and still give them money out of skin color loyalty? Hell no. So why should you? They’d throw them off the island and let them fend for themselves. Black women need to do the same. Like every other group, you have no obligation to support Black misogynists because we are Black. Now ask yourself, when was the last time Black misogynists marched or were outraged when a Black woman was insulted, abused or even worse? When was the last time someone in the entertainment industry dissed a Black woman and there was repercussions for it? Never. If you or I dissed other groups there would be hell to pay. Have y’all seen Twitter lately? Even Black woman hater Kevin Hart acknowledged this. Think long and hard about that.LILD

Don’t you get tired of Black women giving without getting that same support in return? Aren’t you tired of supporting Black faces even though they cursed you, disrespected you and mocked you simply because they are Black? Heck, when was the last time they supported a Black woman’s project? Never, so leave them alone. Stop buying their products and supporting their movies. People want to justify their mistreatment of Black women because of centuries old stereotypes but they are wrong. We are not stereotypes. We are people. We are mothers, daughters, sisters, wives, partners and friends. We are human beings and you deserve respect because you are a human being.

DL Hughley


So wake up. “Skin folk ain’t kin folk.” For far too long Black women have ceded our respect to line the pockets of those who have disrespected us. All for the sake of one-sided faux Black unity. I have had enough and I hope you have had enough too. You have two choices sis. Get on the train, say enough and make it a financial liability to disrespect Black women or get left behind and allow someone who called you and I a bitch to thrive. It is up to you.

Black Men in the Entertainment Industry who have dissed Black Women that Black Women still support!!!(((WARNING: Laced with madness, the stupid, profanity, and hella colorism)))

Part Deuce: Black Men in the Entertainment Industry Who Have Dissed Black Women That Black Women Still Support 

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  1. Sharon 23 June, 2014 at 15:23 Reply

    In order for someone to not think of defamation as defamation there has to be a deep level of self-hatred. And there also has to be a core belief that BM hate us too. BW get along in cliques and exclusive groups. We don’t care about each other as a whole, on our own. That’s the conundrum. How do we first see the hatred. Recognize our own hatred. And then renounce it. How do you convince them to love BW? Which means in ALL aspects. How do you convince them that they should want and need BW to not live in poverty, be discriminated in the healthcare system? Not be homeless. To be healthy. Happy! How do you convince them to be active about BW’s well-being? We definitely are with BM’s! I try and do it by shifting their gaze and attention regardless of the response. Because we are conditioned! You are redirecting as well.Wonderfully so.Thank you.

  2. Pip 23 June, 2014 at 17:08 Reply

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  3. 18AMK 26 June, 2014 at 20:37 Reply

    That is why I refuse to date African American men and any Black man in the West. It is disgraceful the way they publically disrespect and hate Black women. And I had bad experiences with these men too. So I will stay away from them when it comes to romance and date other races of men and Black men from other cultures such as African and Caribbean

  4. Lady A 27 June, 2014 at 22:07 Reply

    Kevin Hart’s movie still shot to #1. This shows the lack of protection black women have. You can’t say anything negative about black men, because their image is protected. Even a half black man like the “Hot criminal” with the blue eyes was seen as worthy by black women, now this fool has a modeling contract like WTF? What if he was a black woman with his past would he be getting a pass? And guess who were hyping him up? Black women, as expected. Negroes only hate him because he’s light skin with blue eyes, if he were their depiction of black male-ness they’d be supporting him too.

    One reason I loathe the black community is the disparity in protection.

  5. Anne 1 August, 2014 at 13:06 Reply

    If I had just one penny for every charlatan and self-appointed “black unity” expert who has advocated the subordination of black women in the name of “black unity,” I would be wealthy enough to never have to work again. Those charlatans include women like Shahrazad Ali, who made money off her book “The Black Man’s Guide To Understanding The Black Woman.” It was full of venom and vitriol against all black women, advocated control of us by black men, and advocated domestic violence in the service of that domination. A black misogynist like her is especially harmful because that kind of misogynist pushes his or her anti-black women sentiments in the name of black uplift. It was disheartening that so many people bought into her nonsense. Although her book came out in 1990, the misogynoir in it echoes the equally toxic sentiments of folks like Kevin Hart. If these worthless excuses for men had their way and all black women were affected, there would be even more alienated black women who would distance themselves from the collective Black Community just for the sake of self-preservation. It’s already happening now, because black women are tired of giving support to black men that is not reciprocated.

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