Korryn Gaines! Black women, Black people hate you & this is your wakeup call


After centuries of Black women in America discussing being ignored, abused and murdered, it took horrific Tweets and Facebook posts about Korryn Gaines by Black people for some Black women to see what Mother Sojourner Truth saw. No matter how hard Black women break our backs, are down for the cause, are sick or even die, Black women aren’t treated like women or even humans.

The facts are as a community, Black women aren’t protected like other women. Black women’s images aren’t uplifted by Black people because they’re White supremacists. Black women aren’t valued by our own. We’re despised for our curly hair, ageless skin and ample curves. And unlike other women, Black women have to beg for others, including other Black people to see our humanity.

Korryn’s death and the downright hatred exhibited by not just racist, but also Black people, woke up many Black women to their oppression. Today my and for darn sure your social media pages are flooded with formerly mammyfied Black women saying, “I didn’t know,” “why do they (Black people) hate us” and “where is Korryn’s march?” Now you know. The truth is they hate us because we aren’t White women and Korryn’s march will never come.

Aside from the racists and Black women haters calling her everything but a child of god, today we’re hearing Black folks say wait until we get all of the facts. Remember they never said, this Trayvon Martin story, wait until we will find out more. This Alton Sterling story, wait until we find out more. This Eric Garner story, wait until we find out more. This Oscar Grant story, wait until we find out more. But Black women, the same women who march for the men I mentioned and these ashy ass men who hate us, always have to prove we are worthy of a damn hashtag, the benefit of doubt and our humanity. And people wonder why more and more Black women are trading their marching shoes for their walking papers. My sisters wake up. Korryn did everything she could for the cause and even died for it. But at this every moment she is still hated.

Black women the hoteps, race pimps and proBlack straight male sellers of Black neverlutionary utopian dreams are lying to you. The hoteps and others want Black women to trade a White supremacist patriarchal oppressor for a Black nationalist colorist one. All of this of course is under the guise of faux proBlack (male) unity. This is the same Black oppressor who already ignores you, but only sees your value when you’re marching for them. This the same Black oppressor requires you to protect them, but refuses to protect you. This is the same oppressor who calls their colorism a preference, 40 years of calling you a b***h our culture and who expects you to give everything, including your life, while giving you nothing at all.

I am not saying to despise all Black people or even ignore injustice. We can’t. We’re Black.  What I want is for Black women to get out of the matrix of Black patriarchal mental conditioning and oppression. I want you to stop begging and crying for Black people who hate us to love you and for you to love yourself. Leave the ones who hate you behind and move forward.  Accepting that you’ve been lied to all of your life is hard and hurts. Accept that misogynoir is real and Black women are on our own.  Stop supporting people who wouldn’t spit on you if you were on fire. Support those who support you.  Take off the tubes that bind you to your self-hate. Trade your marching shoes in for your walking papers. Save yourself. Put yourself first and live your life for you. Korryn Gaines is your red pill. You’ve been warned.


The only limit you have is the one you have placed on yourself. Think and be limitless.

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  1. jamericanwoman'95 4 August, 2016 at 11:45 Reply

    Of course, these Black males and male identified Black women only want Black women to ”sacrifice and die” for the cause only to be ridiculed for it. We can’t win either way. I am done with the Black collective and would only focus on advancing myself from now on.

  2. Lisa 4 August, 2016 at 12:17 Reply

    “The hoteps and others want Black women to trade a White supremacist patriarchal oppressor for a Black nationalist colorist one.”

    That right there says it all.

  3. Kemi 4 August, 2016 at 16:27 Reply

    ‘Black women the hoteps, race pimps and proBlack straight male sellers of Black neverlutionary utopian dreams are lying to you. The hoteps and others want Black women to trade a White supremacist patriarchal oppressor for a Black nationalist colorist one’.

    THIS, this, this. The whole article is everything – thank you.
    Absolutely, this quote sums up what black liberation/revolution/hotep/conscious and dare i say, wokeness is about. And, black women are shown time and time again that we’re despised and hated by black males but we practice a dedicated and nihilistic cognitive dissonance that has us pleading and marching for the preservation of black male life that has only matched our dedication to them in their desire and industrious, fanatical efforts in erasing black women, replacing us with every grade of non-black woman and denigrating us for the world’s audience. The saddest part of it all is that our slaving over them has left them delusional about their worth and value. They’re redundant to be frank. Match the black male with any man of another race and how they perform manhood. How men of other races function as men. Whether you want to get the best out of patriarchy or have dreams of tearing it down, the male of every other race is able to function. The black male on the other hand has no desire to nurture, produce, provide, protect, has no concept of self-preservation, no self-awareness. Has no idea, apparently, that the blind, fierce devotion they receive from black women who bleed themselves weak giving this at the cost of themselves and other black women and girls, is where they get all their value from. If black women broke this chain, completely disassociated, separated ourselves as a distinct group, they could go no where. Women of other races only tolerate them (when they are cashless) because they are low-grade women who are able to feel superior to black women when with these black males because we know that the ‘sell’, the line black males use to get the attention of these women is to denigrate black women. These women interpret this as complimentary. Black men are of no value to black women and girls at all. We need to walk away, however a good man, be it father, brother, uncle etc a black woman feels they have in their life, the test is how they treat THE black woman, not you individually as a black women. By all means keep these individual black men in your life but as for marching, raising money, crying, diverting attention and labours from our own self-care and healing and growth, no. Let them march for their own lives and if they can’t be bothered let’s hope they find the self-awareness to quietly shrivel up in the hell of their own making. Unfortunately, as for this desperately awful Korryn Gaines incident, I don’t see it having any meaningful impact on black women beyond a week before the amnesia and habit of generations sets back in to bamboozle and confuse us.

  4. Donna 4 August, 2016 at 16:35 Reply

    Well, you know it is bad when now, even black men are saying FLOTUS Michelle Obama is a tranny. They have youtube videos stating this. I first saw this being done by white men & other so-called christian doing videos insinuating the FLOTUS is a tranny, but now black men are doing it as well, & the comments are horrific. We should follow Michelle Obama, Janet Jackson, Melody Hobson, & other Black women examples in who we marry—meaning marry men who love you & hand around people that support you unconditionally.

  5. Bizzy Bee 5 August, 2016 at 00:59 Reply

    We can only hope that the execution of Korryn Gaines has opened black women eyes to the hate, contempt, and utter malice that the black community has towards us (Black women and Black girls).
    They want our resources, blood, sweat, and tears. Sometimes our lives and they are done with us. I’M not marching or speaking up on behalf of any black man /boy that is shot and killed by policemen. Deal with it. I ain’t gonna be a Mammy Mule. STAY STRONG MY SISTERS. #BlackWomenandBlackGirlsRock!

  6. Ronald Taylor 5 August, 2016 at 06:06 Reply

    Hate creates hate….in the end hate wins…one love to all my beautiful black sisters, this will make me cherish my black queen that i have in my life even more…Peace be on to you

  7. AJA 5 August, 2016 at 11:08 Reply

    Forget #bluelivesmatter
    Forget #alllivesmatter
    Forget #blacklivesmatter

    We’ve been stuck in the matrix entirely to long. Pill swallowed and warning heeded.

  8. James P. 14 August, 2016 at 11:39 Reply

    First of all, thanks for this article and sharing your thoughts regarding the recent murder of Korryn Gaines. I feel wholeheartedly that –along with killings of multiple Black men and women at the hands of the police–she could have been arrested like all of the other European American suspects have been after they committed acts of domestic terrorism; instead of having her life ended. As a Black man, I believe we have failed y’all. I also know from reading and research (and just paying attention!) that Black women have received the harshest treatment of any other group in this country. After reading through all of the comments, it’s sad to think about what would happen to us as Black people of the men and women didn’t stand together. We’re all we have. I am genuinely concerned for our existence in the face of systemic oppression built on white nationalist sentiments. I am open to any suggestions on how I can be a part of the solution. By the way, can someone tell me how you all would define a ‘hotep’? I follow a lot of Pan African, pro Black individuals and organizations on social media, but I don’t agree with all of their ideas. I’m just looking for a better understanding. Anyways, have a great day and thanks again for the original post as well as he additional opinions.????????

  9. ALC 7 October, 2016 at 13:29 Reply

    But hold up…. your one of them….. i remember being sent one your rants on light skin girls…… someone had been using it to bully my lil black (but light) sister……….

    So what is it you want divisivion or unity?

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