A Black male is shot & killed by the police in Milwaukee, Black people riot. Two weeks ago Korryn Gaines got victim-blamed.

Milwaukee, USA Today

Y’all see what is happening in Milwaukee when a Black man was shot by the police? He was carrying a gun when stopped by the police and is accused of running from them. Read more here. Black people aren’t questioning his character, arrest record or actions. Black people aren’t victim blaming. It’s instant mobilization with chants of “Black power” and “No justice no peace.”

korryn-gaines-640x938Now I want you to remember and compare the reaction to Korryn Gaines’ murder by the police. There was no instant mobilization. All I remember was Black people saying “why did she have a gun,” “let’s get all the facts,” “she should have known better” and a lot worse. Black folks went from Black Lives Matter to All Lives Matter.

WAKE UP!! Do y’all need more proof? Black Lives Matter and darn near every Black American civil rights movement has always been about the rights of Black men for access to and emulate patriarchal White supremacy.

Sis, I know you have brothers, fathers, husbands, and sons. That’s great and I do too, but the Black collective is looking out for them. They have the NAACP. They have churches and Black social justice, political and social organizations.  Who is looking out for you? No one! The truth is the liberation of the Black male has never been to tied to your own. Black woman you on your own. The reaction to Korryn’s death, who was down for the cause compared to Aaron Mak’s tells Black women this liberation thing ain’t and has never was about you. Black women stay home. Let the men fight their battles. Take off the your marching shoes and put on your house shoes. Do you and enjoy life.

The only limit you have, is the one you have placed on yourself. Think and be limitless.

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  1. B 14 August, 2016 at 10:21 Reply

    ????????????????????????, this is an amazing post and u speak so much truth. You have an amazing blog and thank you for the platform that you continue to use, it’s amazing

  2. professormegan 14 August, 2016 at 10:21 Reply

    I have said repeatedly to others that I do not support the BLM movement as I would be supporting black male, criminal, feral lives in most cases. I have no social meeting presence and do not desire one, but someone needs to start a hashtag called “Black women’s lives matter, too!”. But I know it would never get anywhere near the support that the BLM movement does, and would be touted as ‘divisive’ by black men and black-male identified women.

  3. Tori 14 August, 2016 at 12:23 Reply

    this is an interesting post. I personally just don’t know of any huge cases of black women being killed by police brutality, maybe I missed them. Sandra bland was a huge case and she is included in the black lives matter movement and Korryn was the only other woman I had even heard of. Seems like they highlight cases that are out in the forefront of media and most of those cases have been men. Not to say we aren’t killed by police it’s just not really seen publicly on a grand scale so maybe that’s why. Who knows. I’d hope and pray if more cases of black women being killed went as viral as the Alton sterling and philando Castile murders that the movement would stand up for us. I don’t think Korryn shoulda been killed like that and her son shot but I also don’t agree with her methods. It’s easier to get behind someone that you see as a true victim…boy with candy and a drink, man selling CDs, woman merely driving her car. Maybe I’m gonna get hate for it but I just still have hope that if any of us were killed and were unarmed and not combative that the movement would jump on it for us.

  4. Serenity 14 August, 2016 at 13:43 Reply

    I went to a bembe where the had only the names of men listed. When I asked the Baba where the women’s names where, he said they weren’t that important. Me and my chicken left.

    Doesn’t matter the Cipher, we women are on our own…

  5. Bizzy Bee 14 August, 2016 at 13:53 Reply

    Since i’M on my own and my life don’t matter i’M not marching or protesting on behalf of no black man. If a black man is shot and killed by police it’s not my problem.

  6. Patricia Heath 14 August, 2016 at 15:02 Reply

    You have to strive for unity no matter what. Our enemies’ best tool is divide and conquer. Picture a herd of deer being separated and cornered by lions one by one. Having a really, really good reason to separate gets you just as dead.

    Instead, we need unity. Black men and women are separate. Our households are separate, we are attacking each other, and our enemy is smart enough to realize that this makes us vulnerable. Hell, he’s probably the author or most of it.

    So if you want to fight, fight for unity. Fight for black men to understand they are part of a whole, not the whole itself. Fight for them to receive manhood training so they know that protecting and providing is what a man does.

    But don’t be foolish enough to think that if you are separate from the men, that things will go well for you with the white man. He’s banking on that foolishness.

    • Lady A 14 August, 2016 at 19:01 Reply

      Black men aren’t children, they don’t need to be taught to respect black women when it should be something they should have been doing. Black women never had to be taught to respect black men, despite being women and not having leadership roles or power in a patriarchal society. It’s funny black men can recite everything about black history and black male history but when it comes to black women “Oh we gotta teach em”.

      We’re tired, we’re fed up, we’re not marching for people who protect and march for us.

      • Patricia Heath 14 August, 2016 at 22:26 Reply

        Correction “we” cannot teach them manhood. If we could, they would have it from their mothers. They need their dads, and hardly any of them got that. Our ancestors had a three fold system…1. your parents, 2. the rest of the village 3. your rites of passage/initiation. they aren’t getting those things. to make matters worse, they are getting instruction from other wayward males, rap songs, and shaharazad ali on how to DISRESPECT BLACK WOMEN. stevie wonder can see that. they need instruction from the good ones. there’s not too many of them, but it’s enough to begin to turn things around. we had our mothers. if our mothers were on crack, we had grandma and auntie. and if not, the foster mother. most of them are not getting the males they need. even women who purposely planted good seeds in their sons note that as soon as some male comes along and shows an interest him them, all their work is undone. they long to hear from a male. do like our ancestors and legitimize the throne. pick the good males and surround your sons with them. that way your instruction continues.

        • Lady A 15 August, 2016 at 05:36 Reply

          Once I saw the word ancestor I then realized it was going to be a bunch of Hotep rambling full of fictional beliefs coated in patriarchay. No thank you, didn’t read the rest of it.

          Bougie black girl thank you for continuing to call out the double standard in the black community towards black women. I’m starting to see many more black women wake up and realize this and it’s refreshing. About time!

          • Cardell Thomas 15 August, 2016 at 17:44

            I understand how things could be taken this way, But please follow the trail more closely BLM only follows cases sensationalized by The Media. I could be more offended by this as a Good black man myself but i see more bashing done to black women on the internet than men, so ill just let you guys express your frustration without coming to condemn or defend. I hope you all find good black men, (even though they seem to be unattractive to most black women)

  7. No opinion 15 August, 2016 at 06:13 Reply

    This is awful… Y’all are all messed up. Y’all believing these lies. Bougie black girl is about to divide blacks even more haha… Lol #weneedpositiveleaders

  8. GK1 16 August, 2016 at 10:53 Reply

    Black women, I am sorry that WE aren’t supporting you. This enrages me to no end and while I don’t agree with the black women who are becoming anti-black men because of this, i understand it.


    • Shay86 16 August, 2016 at 14:00 Reply

      I’m curious. What is it that you want Black women to do with the fact that you “understand” and that you’re sorry? Was that supposed to magically make things better? Or was this just some kind of confessional for you?

  9. Isis Solomon 17 August, 2016 at 18:53 Reply

    I can’t get behind her because she was bat shit crazy. Looking at the videos directly and nothing more I got that she was not mentally stable. The way she talked to her son the things she made him say. No. I’m sorry but she is a terrible example.

    I’ll admit it as a black woman. She wanted to be a martyr. She put herself in a situation to be a martyr. The way she reacted to the situation shows she was waiting for that very moment. It takes someone really sick to put her child in that situation with her.

    I get what this article is suppose to mean and say but forming your conclusion and using her story as facts and example is wrong. She wanted to be a martyr for the cause and recognized in some disturbing “I want to be famous and runins with the police this will make me known forever” type way. She was disturbed and needed help.

  10. linda 7 October, 2016 at 13:47 Reply

    When I get home from work tonight, I’m going to read this to my partner. We have already decided not to support BLM because we could see from the jump that it is only about Black males. But this post really breaks it down in a way that has opened my eyes even more.

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