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Are you a Bougie Black Girl? First of all, what is a Bougie Black Girl? She is a social climber. She’s ambitious, educated, smart and she takes care of herself. A Bougie Black Girl is happy, carefree, worldly, wants the best in life and goes for it. Some might say these are bad things because we’ve been taught Black women are the mules of the world. As if putting yourself first, like everyone else does is selfish. HA! Girl you know I disagree. You know what? Screw them. What others think about you is none of your business. This is your life and you’re a Bougie Black Girl of course.

I want to stress that taking care of yourself is an act of self-love that benefits everyone. When a Bougie Black Girl is happy, everyone else is too. Our presence makes the world better. By the way, who doesn’t want to live the best life possible? Who doesn’t want to thrive? Anyways, if those qualities sound like you, you just might be a Bougie Black Girl. To make your BBG package complete or to get started and to treat yourself, take a look at what you need to be a Bougie Black Girl.

1. Learn a foreign language like, Chinese (Mandarin). Why should you learn another language? It is fun of course and it gives you an aura of worldliness that very few have. Bougie Black Girls also use their skills to towards our advantage. You can use a foreign language skill to stand out to perspective employers and business associates. I flex my Espanol skills all the time. It has gotten me opportunities that wouldn’t be open to nonSpanish speakers. Because we’re Bougie Black Girls we spot trends and notice the U.S demographics are changing. Heck, the world is connected now more than ever. Why not get ahead of it by learning another language?

2. Get your butt in shape. Bougie Black Girls know our health is our wealth. When you take care of yourself, we’re happier and more focused. Think about it like this, you save money by taking care of yourself. Instead of spending money for emergency rooms and on pills, we can use our money for trips and other great experiences. Let me be honest. I’m tired of seeing our elder mothers sick, broke, miserable and dying from preventable illnesses that could have been prevented by simply taking care of themselves. We all know women like this and it is heartbreaking. Sis this doesn’t have to be your fate. Every Bougie Black Girl deserves a high quality of life and taking care of your health is one way to do it. Start your BBG fitness journey with a Fitbit that helps you track your activity.

3. Get a passport. Why? Bougie Black Girls are world travelers. I’ve been to Asia and loved it. Sometimes I was the only Black person in the area. Unlike the U.S., people in the countries I traveled to were enamored with my skin color. One person even told me I had a beautiful tan. I had to let them know this was all melanin honey. You see with a passport, you can go anywhere in the world you want. Imagine sun bathing on the beaches of Jamaica. How about shopping in Paris? Picture yourself at the safari in Kenya. You see the world is bigger than our block, city, state and even country and that U.S. passport is powerful. USE IT! Don’t forget, Bougie Black Girls love flexing our foreign language skills. The world is yours. ENJOY IT!

4. Get, ahem in touch with yourself with the SATISFYER. Why? Bougie Black Girls don’t have time to worry about STIs and cheating partners. She wants to get “it” anytime she wants it, she believes in family planning (check out Female Condoms) and she knows it is unhealthy to fake it. Trust me, you won’t fake it with this little buddy. BBG girls know self-satisfaction and knowing her body is healthy, natural and normal. Plus it boosts our confidence. So try the SATISFYER. I promise you, you’ll thank me later. Don’t believe me? The reviews speak for themselves. Just click the picture below. HA!

5. Bougie Black Girls are curious and want to know what motivates people. She doesn’t want to be manipulated and wants to use this knowledge towards her advantage. How? Check out one of my favorite books The 48 Laws of Power. I can’t recommend this book enough. It’s taught me so much about people and myself. If you can’t handle the truth about our motivations, this book isn’t for you. But remember you’re a Bougie Black Girl so I know you can.

My fellow Bougie Black Girl, you deserve to live the best life possible and these things can help you get there. I’m honored that you are here and thank you for reading. Again, don’t forget to treat yourself. Remember the only limit you have is the one you have placed on yourself. Think and be limitless.

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Welcome to the seventh installment of “Awesome Black entrepreneurs you should know and support” series. As you know in the United States, the Black dollar circulates only once in the Black community; while in the Asian, White and Jewish American communities their dollar circulates 17-21 times. This series aims to end that disparity.  You see Black businesses hire Black people and Black jobs create Black wealth. Our goal is creating, growing and maintaining multi-generational Black wealth. We want you know about Black owned businesses and the inspiring people behind them.

I would love to introduce you to Lisa A. Smith. She is the Founder & Principle of FITCAMP360 INC and Detroit Fit Mob, an online platform for personal training, nutrition and self-development.

Bougie Black Girl: Hi Lisa. Tell us about yourself.

Lisa A. Smith: My name is Lisa A. Smith and I am the founder and principal of FITCAMP360 INC. I am a self-esteem and confidence builder. I assist professional female entrepreneurs and executives with looking, feeling, and being the best version of themselves through fitness, nutrition and mindset. I am a plant-based certified personal trainer through the National Academy of Sports Medicine with a bachelors in psychology and a masters in business. I started my own journey to health in 2012 at 190lbs.  I fell in love with fitness and nutrition, lost over 60lbs and gained a bottomless amount of confidence.  I quickly realized that when people feel good about their appearance they also feel good about their abilities and their belief in what’s possible skyrockets. I launched FITCAMP360 in 2015, an online platform for personal training, nutrition and self-development, to help people build on two of their most valuable assets: self-esteem and confidence. I am also the founder of Detroit FIT Mob a seasonal fitness flash mob which travels throughout metro Detroit. In addition, I host a weekly radio show entitled Professionally Fit and is currently in the process of entering pre-med with an ultimate goal of changing how the medical field uses synthetic drugs vs nutrition to treat chronic disease.  A wealthy woman’s best friend is her health! We cannot grow companies, build enterprises or make significant impacts if we are not firing on all cylinders. It is my belief that cognitive functioning, drive, energy, motivation and creativity are all heavily impacted by diet and overall health.

Bougie Black Girl: Amen to that. Lisa can you tell us who or what inspires you?

Lisa: I’m 100% inspired by my clients. My sole mission is to educate/enhance my community via proper nutrition, self-development and fitness.

Bougie Black Girl: That’s awesome. How did you decide to start Fitcamp 360?

Lisa: FITCAMP360 INC is the health and wellness solution for professional women on the go. We offer 100% customized personal training, nutritional education and self-development via an online platform. After working in a traditional gym setting as a personal trainer and doing a bit of my own social experiment I noticed the reasons most people did not reach their goals was due to money, time or nutrition. I decided an online platform for professionals who were always on the go was exactly what the industry was missing. I’m able to save my clients tons of time and charge much less than a traditional big box gym via an online platform because I don’t have the overhead or geographic restrictions of a brick and mortar. Personal training and nutritional coaching should be available and affordable throughout our community and with African-American women being one of the fastest growing demographics in the U.S. it is imperative that we make our health a priority sooner than later. There’s simply too many people counting on us to be great.

Bougie Black Girl: Awesome! What makes FITCAMP360 different from other fitness, health and wellness programs?

Lisa: Hands down, the biggest differentiator of FITCAMP360 is the emphasis we put on nutrition and self-development. Most health and wellness programs start off by asking about your goal weight, body fat index and how often you’d like to train. We start off by asking about your current eating habits, stress and confidence levels. We’re 100% invested in the whole person. Most people come to us looking for a physical transformation however our goal is to incite a complete mind, body and spirit transformation.

Bougie Black Girl: Please explain to our readers how does Fitcamp 360  address the needs of Black children and adults?

Lisa: Professionally Fit caters specifically to black families through an initiative we launched this past summer entitled Detroit Fit Mob, a monthly fitness flash mob. We flash mob random locations throughout metro Detroit and promote physical fitness through community engagement. Men and Children are always encouraged and we always have families join in. We literally pop up and start exercising on the street while you’re sipping a latte on your local coffee shop’s patio! We also offer a quarterly scholarship where we provide 3 months of complimentary online personal training and nutritional coaching. Our past scholarship recipients have collectively lost over 160lbs! Finally we host a quarterly health and wellness event in Detroit entitled FITCAMP360 LIVE! Where we bring together clients and community for a fun, interactive and educational event centered around health. Our 2016 4th quarter event is Sunday Nov 13 and it’s entitled Eat R.E.A.L. Food.

Bougie Black Girl: What are your goals for Fitcamp 360?

Lisa: FITCAMP360 INC will be an internationally recognized health and wellness brand throughout the African-American professional and entrepreneurial community for female professionals seeking to enhance their lives, productivity and success through health and wellness.

Bougie Black Girl: What advice would you give other Black women entrepreneurs who want to start a business? 

Lisa: Be very specific about your mission and objectives. Also, understand that being great at your craft IS NOT equivalent to having a successful business. You must master or successfully outsource things such as marketing, accounting, writing content, advertising, sales, bookkeeping and HR.

Bougie Black Girl: Where can we support FITCAMP360?   

Lisa: Website: www.fitcamp360.com

Facebook: Fitcamp Threesixty  

Instagram: @Fitcamp360

Online nutrition school:  foodamentals.teachable.com.

Radio show (every Monday at 630 PM EST) http://www.fitcamp360.com/professionally-fit website Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/user-750841597

Blog: www.fitcamp360.com

Bougie Black Girl: Thank you so much Lisa!

Alright y’all, if you are looking to change your mind, body and life and do it online, check out FITCAMP360 INC!  Lisa has walked the walk and talks the talk. Now you have to decide if you are ready to do the same.  The only limit you have, is the one you have placed on yourself. Think and be limitless.

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As you know Rachel “who shall not be named” the last race bender wrote a book about her Blackity Black transracial experience called In Full Color: Finding My Place in a Black and White World (affiliate link because I need money). In case you don’t remember who she is, she is the #FFFFF (White) woman who pretended to be Black and was caught lying about everythang after saying a NAACP office was vandalized. Watch the video where she gets busted below.

Black men I blame y’all for this Black enough hotep wet dream. You made her. You protected her. You gave her to us. Like a mystery rash she keeps on coming back and now we’re stuck dealing with her. Sigh!

Let me revel in my brilliance for a minute. I, Negrodamus (thanks Dave Chappelle) told you on June 15, 2015 Rachel would get a book deal when I said, “Eventually, she will get a movie deal. It will probably be on Life Time because they live for this kind of thing. She will have a book a book deal and go on a lucrative speaking tour detailing her life as a strong strugglin Black woman. It will be all for the White gaze, of course, while actual Black women like me are ignored. This ironically is the ultimate White privilege.” This time and it is hard for me to say this, I hate to be right.

That moment when life hands you your White privilege card back

Anyways, in honor of her new book, In Full Color: Finding My Place in a Black and White World (affiliate link because I have student loans) dropping next year, we here at Bougie Black girl, by the power of Photoshop, have decided to edit the main title. Here are our suggestions in no particular order. Tell us what you think.

1. The New Miss Ann

2. White Ice on Soul

3. Ar’nt I a Black Woman

4. The Brownest Eye

5. Transracial

6. Black Like Me

7. One Drop

8. Passing Black

9. Color Stuck

10. Mayo to Melanated

I hope you enjoyed this post as much as I did making it. Again, tell us what you think. The only limit you have is the one you have placed on yourself think and be limitless.

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Let me preface this post with a story before we get in the meat, potatoes, rice, and peas. I’m hungry now.

Many of you know I was in the Navy. That’s where I met my late hubby.  When I was in the Navy, I hung out hard with a Black male friend. Let’s call him Ernest. Ernest was a great guy and a sailor who loved anime, Japan, etc. I loved anime too so we’d talk and watch anime for hours. Yes, I’m a nerd. Moving on! The thing is Ernest just happened to exclusively date White women. For those wondering, I never asked why and didn’t I care. I just thought he was a cool dude.

One day Ernest was driving us back to our barracks (dorms for civilians). Out of nowhere Ernest asked me, “why aren’t you mad I date White women?” I looked out the passenger’s side window and told him the truth. I flatly stated, “I don’t care who you date.” The truth was, I really didn’t care and I was in love with my future husband.

The thing is, he expected the angry Black women stereotype. He was stunned I wasn’t. I eventually met his latest White girlfriend. Let’s call her Becky. Becky would say slick things about Black women, our hair and so called attitudes. My Black ass, like all Black women, was the complete opposite of this racist stereotype. I know I’m intelligent as heck. I’m attractive. I worked out and I am ambitious. I had no shortage of suitors. My suitors were from different ethnic, racial, religious and economic backgrounds. I was just in love with my late husband.

Because I didn’t match the racist stereotype in Becky’s mind, I was a threat. When I saw that, I left Ernest alone. I don’t do crazy girlfriends regardless of how much we both love Naruto. What Becky’s sorry ass didn’t know was Ernest told me if I wasn’t getting married to my late hubby, he’d leave Becky’s ass for my 4C hair, big booty and Blackity Black me. I was his “dream girl” who his mama would love. Unlike Becky, I didn’t touch him or even look at him like that. HA!

The point of my story is Black men who think Black women obsess over their interracial relationships are wrong. They’re looking for a fight where there is none. Be honest. You’re obsessed with Black women. Y’all need Black women to prove every racist stereotype about ourselves so you can give yourself permission to hate Black women and be OK with your dating choices. One more thing. Y’all also need someone to blame when y’all fail miserably. Some people are blaming Black women for Birth of a Nations’ fail at the box office. HA!

Facts

• There are 19 million Black men in United States. 
• Black men are 47.7% of the Black population
• Only 40% of BOAN’s audience were men.
• Black men failed BOAN. Black women were overrepresented in BOANs audience and did not fail BOAN.

Sources: U.S. Census SELECTED POPULATION PROFILE IN THE UNITED STATES- Black Alone
2015 American Community Survey 1-Year Estimates and Why Was the Audience for ‘The Birth of a Nation’ Made Up Mostly of Women?

The easiest people to blame are Black women because the Black community doesn’t want to and is ill-equipped to protect Black women. Ever notice when someone’s project fails, people blame Black women. If a Black man doesn’t succeed even though we’re all from the same environment, it’s the Black woman’s fault. When the sun doesn’t shine, it’s Black women’s fault. If there was no room at the inn for Mary and baby Jesus’ stepdad, it was Black women’s fault. If there aren’t enough raisins in your Raisin Brand, it’s Black women’s fault. The truth is little man, this isn’t a 1980’s Spike Lee Joint, where Black women obsess over Black men. Black women don’t give a darn who you date, love or marry. We’re too busy living, starting businesses, raising families, going to college, falling in love and loving ourselves.

Let’s look at my point on a larger scale. If Black women did care if a Black man married a nonBlack woman, why do Taye Diggs, Omari Hardwick, Michael Ealy, Michael Colter, and darn near every Black man in Hollywood have careers? Because Black women don’t care about who they married. All we want is for them to take off their shirts. OK, that’s what I want. HEY LUKE CAGE!! If we don’t support a Black man’s career, perhaps he just sucks, has a horrible reputation, has openly stated he hates Black women or needs to produce better work. The question I should ask is if Black men are willing to support Black women centered work, like Queen of Katwe or Hidden Figures? Looking at Black history, I won’t hold my breath. 

Let me repeat this for the cheap seats. Black women don’t care if you’re with Becky, Maria, Latoya or Chen. If you hate Black women, get help. If you’re obsessed with Black women and what we think about your dating choices, get help. If Black women aren’t supporting your projects, don’t blame the consumer. Make a better product. Your issue with Black women is the hater’s cross to bare, not mine. All I want is for Black men to keep our names out of their mouths and stop using racist antiBlack women tropes to justify their nonBlack dating choices.

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Black women are under attack. Yes attack. It sounds harsh, but there’s an unorganized campaign to destroy the lives of Black women by promoting struggle love through media and art. What is “struggle love propaganda?” Struggle love propaganda are memes, videos, music, hotepian art, etc spread in social media and created by men to get cheap ass from women without putting in work.  These memes ask you to fix a man, build a man, settle for any ole man, don’t ask for child support, and settle for being treated like trash for the rest of your life.

You’ll tend to see women with no standards say “yes”  and “pick me” to struggle love propaganda in comment sections of social media sites. Women do this because they have no self esteem,  they’re lonely, will settle for any ashy peen and/or they just don’t know better. Struggle love propaganda is aimed at Black women because the meme’s creators know the Black women’s pool of potential partners, if you limit yourself to just Black men, is incredibly limited. Some Black woman is probably saying “my brother”, “my dad,” or “my man” is a good Black man. You were lucky. I married one. The fact is the numbers prove otherwise.

Why is the pool of Black men limited? Here are some facts. There are 1.9 million more Black women than Black men. Approximately 33% of Black men have been in the criminal justice system. Black men’s unemployment rate is 9.1%. That’s the highest in the U.S. We haven’t even touched Black men who aren’t available because they are gay or married to Black or nonBlack women. Black women’s college attendance rate is one of the highest in the nation at 32% while Black men’s is only 23% and other issues. The point is Black people who create these memes want Black women to settle because the pool of eligible Black men isn’t big. Before you call me bitter, I’m not being mean. I’m not bashing. I am stating cold hard facts.

SELECTED POPULATION PROFILE IN THE UNITED STATES more information
2015 American Community Survey 1-Year Estimates (Black Only)

Have you ever seen these memes directed at Asian women, Latino women or even White women? No, because these communities expect men to be providers. They also expect women to marry up. Unlike the Black community, wanting a man who can provide a high quality of life for his potential family isn’t gold digging, but the smart thing  to do to avoid multigenerational poverty and encourage inheritance. Heck, even Black men have standards. How many memes, songs or videos have you seen or heard where Black men asked if a Black woman can cook, clean, love God, work while being submissive, be natural, but her hair can’t be too nappy, not cheat while being in a polygamist relationship, is a virgin while sexing like a 40-year-old stripper, has to have it all together while trying to fix and uplift him and I could go on.  Just like Black men, there is nothing wrong with Black women having standards. Having standards will allow you and your children, if you choose to have them, to have a great life.

Look sis, the courtship stage is when men try to impress you the MOST. It sets the tone of the relationship. If you accept less during the courtship stage, most of the time, you’ll get less during the relationship. If you’re a cheap date, your relationship will be on the cheap. Men who promote this trash want and expect ass and wife duties for the price of a movie ticket, a vanilla milk shake and large GMO fries. Aren’t you worth more than that? Have standards and keep them. Men respect a woman with standards much more than cheap and a mediocre accepting woman. Let a love deserving of you, find you.

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So this post “Why These 3 Black Men Won’t Date Black Women” featuring three men who won’t date Black women has been floating around the internet. It was from the inherently antiBlack women “Iyanla: Fix My Life” show. She is. I know what I saw. You can disagree, but that’s not the point of the post. Y’all you should see the reactions to the article and video. They range from anger to sisters down right begging and writing open letters to Black men who hate them. Stop it y’all!

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Today is the 50th anniversary of the show that taught us to “boldly go where no one has gone before,” Star Trek. Star Trek was not only awesome, but ground breaking with its multicultural cast.

Everyone knows about the fabulous Nichelle Nichols as Lt. Uhura and Zoe Saldana who played Uhura in the recent movie. But did you know these Black actresses also appeared on the Star Trek shows and movies?

Victoria Dillard as Ballerina on Star Trek: The Next Generation

Whoopi Goldberg as Guinan on Star Trek : The Next Generation (1988-1993)

Aisha Hinds as Navigation Officer Darwin on Star Trek: Into the Darkness (2013)

Madge Sinclair as Captain Silva La Forge on Star Trek: The Next Generation (1993)

Leslie Silva as Danica Erickson on Star Trek Enterprise (2005)

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Milwaukee, USA Today

Y’all see what is happening in Milwaukee when a Black man was shot by the police? He was carrying a gun when stopped by the police and is accused of running from them. Read more here. Black people aren’t questioning his character, arrest record or actions. Black people aren’t victim blaming. It’s instant mobilization with chants of “Black power” and “No justice no peace.”

VIDEO: Rioters chanting “black power” as gas station burns in #milwaukee pic.twitter.com/wQJ45WOocm

— Tim Pool (@Timcast) August 14, 2016

Now I want you to remember and compare the reaction to Korryn Gaines’ murder by the police. There was no instant mobilization. All I remember was Black people saying “why did she have a gun,” “let’s get all the facts,” “she should have known better” and a lot worse. Black folks went from Black Lives Matter to All Lives Matter.

WAKE UP!! Do y’all need more proof? Black Lives Matter and darn near every Black American civil rights movement has always been about the rights of Black men for access to and emulate patriarchal White supremacy.

Sis, I know you have brothers, fathers, husbands, and sons. That’s great and I do too, but the Black collective is looking out for them. They have the NAACP. They have churches and Black social justice, political and social organizations.  Who is looking out for you? No one! The truth is the liberation of the Black male has never been to tied to your own. Black woman you on your own. The reaction to Korryn’s death, who was down for the cause compared to Aaron Mak’s tells Black women this liberation thing ain’t and has never was about you. Black women stay home. Let the men fight their battles. Take off the your marching shoes and put on your house shoes. Do you and enjoy life.

The only limit you have, is the one you have placed on yourself. Think and be limitless.

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After centuries of Black women in America discussing being ignored, abused and murdered, it took horrific Tweets and Facebook posts about Korryn Gaines by Black people for some Black women to see what Mother Sojourner Truth saw. No matter how hard Black women break our backs, are down for the cause, are sick or even die, Black women aren’t treated like women or even humans.

The facts are as a community, Black women aren’t protected like other women. Black women’s images aren’t uplifted by Black people because they’re White supremacists. Black women aren’t valued by our own. We’re despised for our curly hair, ageless skin and ample curves. And unlike other women, Black women have to beg for others, including other Black people to see our humanity.

Korryn’s death and the downright hatred exhibited by not just racist, but also Black people, woke up many Black women to their oppression. Today my and for darn sure your social media pages are flooded with formerly mammyfied Black women saying, “I didn’t know,” “why do they (Black people) hate us” and “where is Korryn’s march?” Now you know. The truth is they hate us because we aren’t White women and Korryn’s march will never come.

Aside from the racists and Black women haters calling her everything but a child of god, today we’re hearing Black folks say wait until we get all of the facts. Remember they never said, this Trayvon Martin story, wait until we will find out more. This Alton Sterling story, wait until we find out more. This Eric Garner story, wait until we find out more. This Oscar Grant story, wait until we find out more. But Black women, the same women who march for the men I mentioned and these ashy ass men who hate us, always have to prove we are worthy of a damn hashtag, the benefit of doubt and our humanity. And people wonder why more and more Black women are trading their marching shoes for their walking papers. My sisters wake up. Korryn did everything she could for the cause and even died for it. But at this every moment she is still hated.

Black women the hoteps, race pimps and proBlack straight male sellers of Black neverlutionary utopian dreams are lying to you. The hoteps and others want Black women to trade a White supremacist patriarchal oppressor for a Black nationalist colorist one. All of this of course is under the guise of faux proBlack (male) unity. This is the same Black oppressor who already ignores you, but only sees your value when you’re marching for them. This the same Black oppressor requires you to protect them, but refuses to protect you. This is the same oppressor who calls their colorism a preference, 40 years of calling you a b***h our culture and who expects you to give everything, including your life, while giving you nothing at all.

I am not saying to despise all Black people or even ignore injustice. We can’t. We’re Black.  What I want is for Black women to get out of the matrix of Black patriarchal mental conditioning and oppression. I want you to stop begging and crying for Black people who hate us to love you and for you to love yourself. Leave the ones who hate you behind and move forward.  Accepting that you’ve been lied to all of your life is hard and hurts. Accept that misogynoir is real and Black women are on our own.  Stop supporting people who wouldn’t spit on you if you were on fire. Support those who support you.  Take off the tubes that bind you to your self-hate. Trade your marching shoes in for your walking papers. Save yourself. Put yourself first and live your life for you. Korryn Gaines is your red pill. You’ve been warned.

The only limit you have is the one you have placed on yourself. Think and be limitless.

Create your own personal life plan check out my Change Your Mind, Change Your Life Goals and Action Plan Worksheets. It will help you create goals and action steps to meet them. Need a last-minute gift? Check out “Change Your Mind, Change Your Destiny” on Amazon for only $2.99. Did I mention it is free for Amazon Prime and Kindle Unlimited users? WE LOVE FREE!! Also check out my 5 steps to building a killer blog and make money from it course. How much is it? Pay what you can.

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Are you “looking for love in all the wrong places?” Well you’ve come to the right place. Since #Smoochr, an app for Black singles, lets you pick out a partner based on skin color, hair texture and level of hotepiness, you know, important stuff; today I’m creating an app for women called “Pecs.”

You’re probably thinking there are thousands of dating apps for women. Why should I choose this one? Well on the “Pecs” app, our match matrix uses a unique blend of scientifically tested questions to get women their perfect match.  We ask the usual questions like age, race and income. Unlike other services, we ask men their penis size, number of baby mamas, can they fix things and if they can read. Here’s some examples.

We all know credit scores affect our lives and finance is the number one reason for divorce. To avoid that we ask a suitor if their credit score is:

• I f**ked up my credit and will f**k up yours
• I pay my bills
• What’s credit?

At pecs we go even further than any other app. We want to know how many baby mamas you have and the level of drama you’ve created. So we ask men who use Pecs if their level of baby mama drama is:

• This is really about the children
• Ciara and petty Future level
• Everything is my baby mama’s fault
• Bobby and Whitney, I am still messing with my baby mama but I hate her dysfunctional level.

Don’t forget this app is called Pecs for a reason. Women should have a variety of choices when choosing a mate. As a member of Pecs, men must pose shirtless in their profile pics. Men  are asked if their chest is:

• Tig ole bittys
• marijuana boobs
• taco meat supreme
• flat as a White girl’s ass

Since the size of a penis is essential to a woman’s happiness we want to know if a man is:

• A #2 pencil penis
• Snow flake ashy
• Average, but stroke game good
• Thicker than a snicker
• Let me call my girlfriend and let her know he’s my new baby daddy porn star peen

Finally, we want to know if a man can read. At the end of the online interview he must take a 12th grade reading level test because every woman has right to know if she might be reproducing with illiterate sperm.

So join us Pecs and help build a community focused on the real needs of women.

In my quick legal announcer voice: This post was a joke. Many will get it, but it will go over some heads and will be offensive to the same folks who had no problem with the Smoochr app.  By the way, if you steal this idea, I’m suing you. Thanks for reading.

The only limit you have is the one you have placed on yourself. Think and be limitless.

Create your own personal life plan check out my Change Your Mind, Change Your Life Goals and Action Plan Worksheets. It will help you create goals and action steps to meet them. Need a last-minute gift? Check out “Change Your Mind, Change Your Destiny” on Amazon for only $2.99. Did I mention it is free for Amazon Prime and Kindle Unlimited users? WE LOVE FREE!! Also check out my 5 steps to building a killer blog and make money from it course. How much is it? Pay what you can.

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