Begging for Forgiveness from Black Men and Black Women Who Blame Black Women For All of the Black Community’s Problems

Caution: This post is not about #ALLBLACKMEN even though Black men never use caveats about Black women. It is satire. Hit +  dog = holler. Enjoy!!!


Dear Black Men and Black Women Who Blame Black Women For All of the Black Community’s Problems,

I am sorry. Sorry that I and other Black women have had high expectations of Black men. It is because previous generations of Black men spoiled us and actually took care of business. You see, they provided for their children. They had jobs and some created jobs on Black Wall Streets all across America. Black men led movements, ran for office, created banks and business and founded historically Black colleges even under the Black codes, Jim Crow and threats from the KKK. What a bunch of uncle toms.

They really believed in the Black family. After slavery, many Black men who were separated from their families walked thousands of miles to reunite with them. Those simps! You see back in the day, when a Black man impregnated a Black woman at most, the community forced him to marry her or he was at least expected to take care of her and his children. In the old days, Black men were shamed when they did not provide for their children. Heck, I remember in the 1980’s when the uncles, cousins and grandfathers of the neglected children held the dead beat dads accountable. They’d beat the hell out of guy until he made a promise to care of his children.  And guess what? He did. Those men who held him accountable were upholding White supremacy. Sell outs!

I am so sorry that I expect you to have a relationship with your children even though 72% of you decided not to live with your children and  some of you are not with the mother. Black women, we have a lot of nerve to involve the White man and take Black men to court for child support even though some Black men have refused to help pay for their children. Kids don’t need things like food, water and shelter.Those are optional. Anyway that’s what the government,  Black women and Black grandmas for are for. Black women, we must stop being greedy.

You see, my blues ain’t like yours. Black men have it worse. The White man made you drop out of school, commit crimes, sell drugs and sexually abuse 60% of Black girls. It was the White man made you terrorize our communities with gang violence. You are in no way at fault. It was feminism made you abandon your children.  It was feminism that makes you abuse and kill your partner at an alarming rate. And it was feminism that made do all those other things that White man made you do. You commit the most of the crimes in my community but I am the blame. It is Black women’s fault that 33% of Black men in the criminal justice system willfully place themselves there and that 15% of Black men in America are unemployed.

Oh Black man, I will continue to be silent when you call me bitches and hoes in your music. It is after all, just entertainment. I will be silent when you tell me you don’t like dark butts because you have a preference. I promise to be silent when a Black woman is abused or disrespected by the police, nonBlacks or other Black men but will march, create hashtags, set up funds for your family, wear tee-shirts and take part in online and offline activism only when Black men are injured.  I will continue to support your projects and efforts for equality even when you vilify mine because if I do talk about Black women’s issues it is divide and conquer.

Brother, I will stand beside you even though you uplift nonblack women while justifying your dating choices by dogging Black women. We all know that  Black women are the only ones who are out of shape, single mothers, loud, ghetto or wear weaves. I will call your interracial relationship a preference that 20% of married Black men have made even though you call the 6% of Black women who have married interracially bed wenches. I will continue to be the blame for the so called marriage crisis even though there are two million more Black women then there are Black men and that Black men have the highest unmarried rate in America. Those two major points should not and are not  told in the Black media because Black men do not buy relationship books. How dare I expect marriage and fidelity when  I should accept man-sharing, perpetual baby mommahood, polygamy and infidelity. Polyandry?  Ha, we all know that Black women who have more than one partner are sluts but a Black man who has more than one partner is a man being a man. So you are right. It is all Black women’s fault because we refuse to submit to men who will never marry us. I will gladly submit to you but happily ignore the part of the bible in 1 Timothy verse 8  where it says, “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”

You see men like Marcus Garvey loved the Black woman and worshiped the Black woman. The nerve of him. He even had the audacity to put the Black woman on a pedestal exalting her beauty. They said Black is beautiful and they actually meant dark skin Black women too? Isn’t that crazy. It was because he was whipped.

I am sorry that Black women have been deceived into believing that they have agency over their bodies. Don’t they know that Black women’s bodies are community property to be street harassed, raped and abused? Don’t they know that the Black community can tell if a Black woman loves her Blackness because of a hairstyle? She is a hair hat after all but Black men can alter their hair with du-rags, pomaides, s-curls, gels, hair plugs and even toupees and no one questions their self-love.

Black men I acknowledge that my burden is to ignore my needs, my rights, my wealth, my health, my sanity, my safety and my humanity just to protect you. I must coddle you like a mammy. I must  give my body over to any Black man because of Black unity. I must  raise Black children alone and get blamed for everything goes wrong. My job is to motivate you to succeed because you have no reason to. I must have low expectations of you, infantilize you, emasculate you and uplift you because you because others think you are incapable of doing this yourself.  I am sorry Black man.  I beg you. Please forgive me  and accept my apology for expecting you to be a man.

Signed your sister soldier, dependent, independent, too strong, not strong enough, greedy, broke, mammy, manly, mule, selfish, sperm reciprocal, too high standards having, low standard having, no standards having, bitch,  hoe,  ghetto, bougie, self hating, too self loving, relaxed hair altering, nappy headed, hair hat, too Black but not proud to be Black and dark butt,


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  1. Omar 24 June, 2014 at 17:33 Reply

    As a Blackman I would like to say sorry for my gender. We have failed both blackwomen and black children. And we live selfish lives and alot of hurting blackwomen and children. It breaks my heart when I see black kids see Me in public and I know what their thinking. “where’s my dad” I was that kid. And alot of ego and pride make blackmen not speak up and show love to blackwomen and love them as women and equal partners. And to that I apologize. It all started with divide and conquer make the men hate the women and it all falls down. Its not blackwomens fault. You guys don’t have attitudes your your adapted to the aggressive Blackman. Sometimes I lash out too. But its not out of anger or hate for blackwomen. But of disappointment of my self. Great article, too the blackwomen reading this sorry again. And please don’t give up on us blackmen. Its alot of hurt men out there. Hurt people hurt people, I just hope my fellow brothers wake up like me..humble themselves and take steps to love and not rare down and hate.

    • 18AMK 26 June, 2014 at 20:33 Reply

      You sound sincere and I am glad that you don’t hate Black women. Where are you when these Negro entertainers and racist non Black people bash Black women in public and why don’t you defend us?

      That is what I wonder.

      Honestly I give up on African American men and Black men in the West. I never thought I would see the day but I do give up. I am tired of their excuses that they can’t provide for their children and protect their women because ”da White men” is ”keeping” a ”Brotha” down. And I am so sick of the way African American men and Black men in the West bash Black women and uplift non Black women. I am tired of the way that they abuse, use and discard Black women like crap. And I am tired of the way that they abandon their children and don’t value education, family.

      I am done with romantically pursuing these men although I have never dated an African American male. There are better men from other races and cultures to choose from and date.

  2. Dr.G- 24 June, 2014 at 20:59 Reply

    Your satire, hilarious. Fug them if they can’t take a joke. But then you have those battle of the raps videos that come out, too: Scrubs vs something? I saw you & him standing in the rain vs gold broke down vehicle you call love. Roxanne, Roxanne vs I’m the Real Roxanne. There’s more I’ve forgotten.

  3. Chocolate Vent 25 June, 2014 at 09:22 Reply

    Nice! I will def reblog this on my site.

    I think you answered your own question though – I think Black men feel like they can get away with all of this BECAUSE there are 2 million more of us than there are of them. If they will ALWAYS have more options, then what is to make them straighten up & do better?!

    You mentioned the interracial relationships….I find it interesting that Black men & White women have THE highest divorce rate out of all the interracial marriages out there. Can’t blame that on the Black woman, can they?!

    I’m tired of “waiting” on our men to get it together & am on the verge of giving up on them myself.

    Simply put: I feel ya’

  4. 18AMK 26 June, 2014 at 20:06 Reply

    I am definitely sharing this! Good yet funny satirical post. Most of these African American men act like this because they suffer from self hatred and Stockholm Syndrome. They are doing this because they want to be accepted by the society. All the while, bashing the image of their mother and bashing Black women and not protecting and caring about their children. That is why I refuse to be a mammy for these men. I have my own life to live.

  5. The Intellectual ladies empowerment club 28 June, 2014 at 16:12 Reply

    Great article and what a creative way of doing some reverse psychology. These mammies, sidekicks and mules are hilarious! LOL! Poor things, they are so desperate to receive the approval of black males who don’t want them, that they would rather put their health, lives and happiness on the line; just to appease them. Damn that! My womb, money and time belong to me. More black women need to wake up and stop wasting their youth and time on these fools. Once you accept the fact that the black community’s “values” and way of living is a sham; only then will you be truly free.

  6. moderateblkmale 16 July, 2014 at 13:36 Reply

    Black women you are being replaced, simple as that.Brothers are tired of dealing with you. Yes black men are not marrying you and nor are white men. These shaming tactics won’t work this time you have been exposed.

  7. Yvonne Cousar 23 July, 2014 at 07:00 Reply

    those black men who blame black women for everything negative happening to them, even their failed manhood, do not realize that by doing so, they are abrogating their status as men…. they are saying, “I can’t be a man, because the black woman won’t let me,” and many of the white women they claim to cherish are now, also ending up single with child …. what these men do not realize, is that a woman, black or white, cannot make them a man, they either are or they are not, there is no in between….

  8. Ayana 15 December, 2014 at 13:19 Reply

    I think this article needs to be posted all over social media.

    Black women need to start a new womens rights movement. In this instance would be taking back our men and making them accountable to us. We first neex to have a black womens only conference.

    If the sister who wrote this is interested please feel free to contact me.


  9. Breeze 22 May, 2015 at 13:17 Reply

    Man you ignorant and you support ignorant black men that dog Black women. So what if Black women wear weaves other races do too. I know plenty of Black women with gorgeous natural hair kinky or not. I have nice hair. I wear both weaves and my natural hair. You sound stupid. While you are dogging Black women and supporting ignorant Black men, you better hope a Black man doesn’t dog you out. After all, God loves Black women and that’s all that matters. That’s the problem with females nowadays. Females feel that Black men run shit and their opinions of Black women matter. Black men don’t DEFINE Black women. Im a young Black woman, I wear my natural hair and weaves. Im a good woman and im not Boogie or Ghetto. I grew up in an urban neighborhood. Despite all of that, I currently have a BLACK MAN that wants to be with me because he feels im beautiful and have a good heart. Also, if a Black man has a kid by a woman he NEEDS to take care of his child. The parentS take care of the child NOT the parent (1) and a grandchild. Like what are you a RICH, BOOGIE black woman that grew up around ALL WHITES. You are backwards. Also, if you sit there and let a BLACK MAN call you and bitch , guess what he gone treat you like a bitch. YOU WEAK AS HELL for this post. And that’s the urbaness coming out of me.

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