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Father With 35 Kids Won’t Support His Kids and Says He Has More Kids On The Way!!! DETS Inside!!


“Father With 35 Kids Won’t Support His Kids and Says He Has More Kids On The Way DETS Inside!!”

If you were expecting read that trash you were wrong. You see this post is my little experiment to get you to face your reality. Call it my version of “Beyond Scared Straight” and I am Diablo.

One of the most frustrating things is to see how people with the most to lose, focus on the most distracting things. Things like the title. You ain’t got a pot to pee in and instead of focusing on articles that improve your life, y’all are sharing fight videos and ass shots. COME ON!! You are focusing on things that steal our time, energy and creativity from our lives. For example, I can post the most ratchet trash like this title and it will get millions of likes, shares and views. However, when we talk about goals and making positive changes in our lives, only a few will listen. Why is that?

I believe it is easy to focus on the lives, misfortunes and mistakes of others instead of working on ourselves. Why? Either we believe we are unworthy of achieving our goals or we believe we have no chance of accomplishing them so what is the point. We might as well settle and wait to die. Those are lies we tell ourselves because they are easy. It is easy to quit. It is easy to give up. It is easy to judge someone else instead of looking at ourselves and taking responsibility for our lives. It is hard to own your own life.

You see that is the difference between those who are successful and those who are not. Success is not about where you come from or who you are. Successful people own their own lives. They focus their energy on their goals. They have created a life plan and decided to do the hard task of following through with it. That is it.

The ball is in your court. What do you want to do? Do want to go through life waiting to die so that when everyone looks down on your casket they’d see your hopes dreams, goals and potential lying in that casket with you or do you want to live the life of your dreams? It is up to you.

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Thank you for reading and don’t be mad. I still love y’all.

Kisha aka Bougie Black Girl

*UPDATE* Share post this with your networks. If they comment simply based on the title, they do not read your posts. This is our opportunity to teach because those people are the ones who need to hear this message. Thanks again.



  1. Ritchie Mayes 1 December, 2014 at 07:49 Reply

    Hello Bougie, interesting article. I agree; many are conditioned to responding to stimuli that speak to the animal appetites. I believe that people should focus on those things that lift up the spirit and challenge us to think, not just respond to outside forces. You are correct in your assumption. The title of the article is what drew me to open up the cite. I was more interested in reading how the man justifies not supporting his children with more on the way. The title is an example of how arraignment of words can elicit images and appeal to curiosity of negative experiences of others.

  2. Stacey Crutcher 1 December, 2014 at 20:53 Reply

    I thoroughly enjoyed reading your blog post. I also agree…that it’s in a person’s innate nature to respond more to something negative rather than positive. I think it’s all psychological as most topics shared on Social Media are mostly negative and 10 times out of ten resonates with a person’s specific situation.

    • Ritchie Mayes 2 December, 2014 at 07:31 Reply

      Stacey, I agree. Many times, we fail to understand the connection between learned behavior that is imitated, and influences of negative media images prevalent on many social sites. I believe that those who are informed should become more involved in noting the differences between negative and positive media images. Scholars agree the cognition, the ability ability to reason critically must be nurtured. The idea stems from research that indicates, as individuals transit from one life stage to the next, critical reason capability improves, or should. Many, especially young teens and young adults, have not fully developed their cognitive abilities.

  3. captainhook 3 December, 2014 at 12:29 Reply

    Unless, you’re a successful but bored person who just likes to read juicy gossip? Mother dear was a successful beauty shop owner, but she had a secret stash of pornos and national inquirer hidden under her cash register. Face it, we all love to look down our nose and shake our fingers and heads at ratchet /trailer trash nonsense, it adds entertainment to our boring lives.

  4. Emily 13 December, 2014 at 01:06 Reply

    Says a lot about the people you surround yourself with if your friends are sending each other fighting videos and pictures of ass shots. Get real.

    • Bougie Black Girl 13 December, 2014 at 06:57 Reply

      Actually my friends don’t. You wouldn’t know because you aren’t my friend and are just projecting your insecurities on to me. That is OK.

      Here is how I figured things out; I took a look at the website rankings and saw where Black audiences were going. Well you guessed it. The gossip sites that do nothing to improve the lives of Black people are winning with ass shots and stories that contain headlines like the one above.

      If you don’t mind I would love to reach out to you and figure out where your distain comes from. I would love to help. Please feel free to email me anytime. Have a great day.

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